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I still miss him after all of this!

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    avatarMackenzie
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    I’ve been dating this boy on and off for about a year and a half now, we broke up bc he was talking to this one girl while we were dating and the relationship itself was just completely toxic. So later that night he called me several times at 4am so I eventually answered and and when on and on about how he kissed one of my ex bestfriend. So that killed me inside but I didn’t let him know that. Then exactly a week later he calls me again and says the same thing but this time he kissed my absolute best friend 5 times. She text me apologizing and saying she only did it to shut him up. I didn’t forgive her. Then my ex text me today saying he missed me so much and he’s sorry but then… he just snapped me a picture of another girl right now. Everyone’s been telling me to block him but the truth is I still love him, we’ve been through a lot, and as bad as it sounds I like any time we get to talk even if it does kill me inside. So what do I do with this situation?

    #865649 Reply
    SkyblossomSkyblossom
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    His actions are hateful. They are cruel. They are designed to harm you. His actions are purposeful and malicious. He’s yanking your emotions around like you are his puppet on his string. Cut the string.

    He can only treat you this way if you allow it. Stop allowing it. Take back control of your life. Block him completely. You are still emotionally attached to him. It takes time for that to go away but while you are getting over him you can’t be taking his calls and allowing him to harm you. You will gain strength and confidence by blocking him. Then you can mourn the loss of your relationship without his cruelty. You can allow yourself to heal once you’ve removed him from your life.

    #865654 Reply
    avataranonymousse
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    I think you need to see a therapist and work on your self esteem. He’s cheated on you, made out with your best friends and destroyed those friendships just to hurt you.

    This is not healthy. You need to block his number, and block him on social media. He gets a thrill from hurting you. It’s really messed up. Please, find a therapist, on even see a counselor on an app. He is not a nice person or worthy of your love. I’m sorry you can’t see that right now.

    #865660 Reply
    avatarEssie
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    He’s getting off on causing you pain. He knows you love him, and he’s using that to hurt you. He thinks that’s fun. Think about that the next time you miss him.

    There’s an easy fix for this. Block him. You’re hurting because you’re letting him hurt you. You don’t have to. You can take that away from him with a simple action, and take your strength back.

    You have the power to take your life back. Use it.

    #865702 Reply
    LowLow
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    Quick question but is this high school stuff? I’m pretty sure this is some old school stuff but if someone was doing what you describe to my sister when we were back in highschool, I would have had a “talk” with him and he wouldn’t have bothered her again. If you don’t have a brother, a cousin or even a friend could work this guy over so he would never bother you again. Some people deserve an ass whipping. Give them what they deserve.

    #865707 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    Excuse me, Low, but women can exorcise a fuckboy without needing a man to go beat him up.

    #865713 Reply
    avatarHelen
    Guest

    Block & move forward

    Low I’ve delt with assholes my whole life without ever needing some dude’s backup. If anyone around me needs an ass kicking I’m perfectly capable

    #865733 Reply
    avataranonymousse
    Participant

    Yeah, women are capable of taking care of themselves. Especially in this situation where a simple finger tap on “Block” would do it.

    #865740 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    Low, also think about the messages you’re sending your daughter. Don’t let her grow up thinking violence is a necessary part of life, like she needs guys to fight for her, or if she wants to see Santa she has to also see Daddy go apeshit on strangers in the mall.

    #865742 Reply
    LowLow
    Participant

    Probably bad advice on my part. I apologize.

    #865765 Reply
    SkyblossomSkyblossom
    Participant

    There is also less and less tolerance for beating someone up, even at the high school level. Whoever she got to beat up the ex would likely face arrest and charges. There tends to be zero tolerance for violence.

    #865767 Reply
    avataranonymousse
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    I don’t think he’s doing anything deserving of violence. He hasn’t forced her to look at these texts. It’s her choice to keep communicating with him.

    She also said she doesn’t want to block him, so I doubt she’d conspire to commit assault to get him to stop texting her. She only has to stop allowing it.

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