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This is just a waste of time. It could be all made up. Even if it’s not, it’s unhealthy, unfair and manipulative.
Please block and delete the numbers and seek help as soon as you can.
Nobody understands how hard that is. I’m really sorry for wasting your time, too. Thank you for everything. Again, I’m really sorry.
Yes, we actually do. Billions of people probably do. You haven’t even met in person.
I didn’t say you wasted my time. You are wasting your time with m
Yes, we actually do. Billions of people probably do. You haven’t even met in person.
I didn’t say you wasted my time. You are wasting your time with that manipulative depressed loser you met, where?
Stop apologizing. You don’t owe anyone anything. Stop calling out of work to be “on call” for a man that doesn’t want you. He’s just manipulating you. For what, it doesn’t matter. Do it, you’re a grown up with self control. Delet8ng the numbers, the emails and moving in is a step but it’s really not that hard.
It’s as hard as you make it for yourself.
Why are you latched to an abusive asshole that you haven’t met, who doesn’t want you? Therapy is the solution.
Many of us understand exactly how hard it is to extricate ourselves from someone we desperately do not want to leave, or who has weaponized their mental illness to make us feel responsible for their life or death decisions. I was in that position with my ex husband who was physically holding a firearm to his own head in front of me. Someone I not only had actually met in real life but who I had spent a decade of my life with, and who for much of that time had been a good man.
You’ve gone beyond the point that people on an Internet forum can help you. I agree that if you’ve got access to inpatient treatment, you should absolutely get it. There are layers of deep codependency and intentional self destruction in your situation, in addition to the obvious emotional abuse by someone who is in reality a complete stranger, that are all really, really alarming. Please use the link Kate sent to access free services and hotlines in your area and, as soon as you are able, access comprehensive, long term mental health treatment. If there are free clinics or health services in your area please visit a physician to discuss the medication you’ve got and determine if you should be taking it as well.
Just because I think it’s important to recognize where your self esteem is at: You just apologized for wasting our time.
No. Just no.
Nobody is forcing us to come onto this website and listen to you. No one has a gun to our head and is making us try to get through to you. Nobody here is actually employed by this website except for Wendy (and maybe Kate? I’m not sure what the arrangement is beyond Wendy is the boss and Kate is the deputy)
Most of us are here because we want to be here. We are here because we all know what it’s like to be low. We’re here because we want to be.
And you think you’re so unworthy of love, that you’re not even worth the time it takes for people offer advice to you on a volunteer online-advice forum.
I’m here to tell you that it’s just not true. You’re a worthy person. You deserve a better life than what you currently have. You’re entitled to it. You don’t deserve to have anyone say mean things about you. You don’t deserve to say mean things about yourself.
So please, follow Kate’s advice and get the ball rolling on getting serious mental help.
If I’m interpreting correctly, I believe this poster is facing a six month wait for therapy, rather than having access to a half year inpatient program.
There are long waits for care, but you have to call around and advocate for yourself. I’m dealing with someone at work who has serious mental health issues. I cannot make them get help. I can just push the resources towards them and hope to god they access them asap.
If your self esteem is so low you don’t yourself apology people giving you advice of their own free will, you need help. Anyone at this point is going to manipulate or use you. You’re vulnerable. You’re so low, you feel so low it is actually an emergency situation, and I wish you’d treat it as such.
You literally do not know if anything he said to you ever or told you is real, yet you believe it to be biblically written and your lot in life to sacrifice your job? For some you’ve not even met in person, who consistently emotionally abused you.
I hope you’ve deleted the numbers and contacts. Have you? Grow a pair and take some action. You are not helpless. You are as helpless as you tell yourself you are. You can get online and talk to us, you can get help. I say this all with love and concern, not pity or annoyance.take some action. Be the hero of your story, not the victim.
after all… he ended up leaving me in a horrible way, after telling me over and over and over to die . i cant even know if he’s online, i cant see if he’s there, i have no way to know he is even alive . which is what messes me up way more because it’s like he … died. I’ve lost people but i can still check up on them in small ways . I can still see them around, i can still check their profiles and updates they post. I lost my best friend about 4 years ago and i still check her socials just to see how she’s doing. even though i was never a codependent with her. Him? I always begged, always begged. no self worth, nothing .
he made sure i can know absolutely nothing about him . i begged him, as usual , i cried as usual, i asked him to not take all the control off me, as usual, i had horrible panic attacks, as usual, but when i couldn’t breathe, he straight out told me to suffocate and die
alone, again. this time, way way more damaged , both physically and internally, and with more horrible memories because ive really associated everything that’s physically around me, with him . i want to believe that some time I’ll stop crying
but that’s just life, right?
thank you for listening
