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I’m about to move out but my budget makes me scared. Can you help me?

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  • #1116228 Reply
    TacoTuesday
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    LOL. I can’t with you guys.

    “Your IP hasn’t changed!”
    *IP changes* (Which I’m assuming it has from your comment.)
    “Um, somehow that’s not enough!”

    Whatever.

    #1116229 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Ok let me explain it to you. Yes, your ip addresses right now are both different from each other and different from before. As they would be, yes, if you went anywhere different, including McDonald’s, and connected then disconnected from their WiFi.

    What could NOT happen is what happened between the weekend and Monday, where on Sunday you were in your room at your parents house and on Monday in your new apartment, and have exactly the same ip in both places. The only way you’d have the same ip on 2 separate days is if you were in the same place.

    Having a different ip now doesn’t prove you moved out. It just proves you’re probably not exactly where you were yesterday.

    #1116230 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Like why is this confusing?

    #1116231 Reply
    Anonymousse
    Guest

    Seriously. We would still help you, so just stop lying and trying to prove us wrong or something. We’re not here to investigate your truthiness.

    But it’s not going to help if you lie constantly. None of the advice will help you, because, duh- based on lies.

    So again, what is the actual problem?

    #1116232 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Did you think of you told us you’d moved out and were getting therapy, that we’d stop telling you to do that so we could get back to analyzing your parents’ sick behavior?

    #1116233 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Btw, I’m on my phone on data, and my ip just changed in the short drive to a restaurant. It’s subtly different now than when I posted in the car.

    #1116234 Reply
    TacoTuesday
    Guest

    The 24th, I said I was moving in that weekend, yes, still at my parents house because I hadn’t moved yet.

    On the 26th I clarified which place I chose for someone who asked. When writing that comment, I was literally at a wholesale restaurant store’s parking lot, buying dishes and cookware for my place. I didn’t respond all the rest of that day because, duh, I’m busy unpacking and moving in. (And also peeved and tired of justifying myself.)

    To today, deliberately waiting to post again until the internet technician installed my router which he just did this afternoon. I took off Friday–Tuesday just so I could set up in my place, because I’m back at work tomorrow.

    If my IP address was still the same as my parents’ house at that restaurant store ~20 minutes away on data on my phone, I honestly can’t explain why.

    Listen, believe what you want. I came here to say thanks for the advice thus far, and that’s it. I’m not really interested going back and forth anymore.

    You helped me through one chapter of my life and now I’m on the otherside.

    #1116235 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Do you want me to email you screenshots of the post where you said “I’m sitting in my room right now looking at my packed boxes,” with your ip displayed above it, and then your post where you said “I’m in my new apartment right now,” and the same exact ip above it, the next day? Or what? Why are you still at this?

    #1116236 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Right now, FYI, your ip is changing with almost every post.

    #1116238 Reply
    Anonymousse
    Guest

    You could stop justifying yourself by being honest and telling us what is actually going on. I don’t care about your IP, but would appreciate if you’d stop playing the internet pretends with us. This isn’t Reddit, Kate is smart and while we enjoy playing around a little we’d much rather help you that continually calling out the lies.

    It’s easier to keep it all straight when you’re mostly honest. It’s really the simplest way to not get caught out by anyone is to not lie unless it’s absolutely necessary.

    In this case, it’s not necessary. It’s the opposite.

    #1116239 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Right, I really don’t care about your ip either. Your posts about moving out did not sound real. When you lie on here, you’re not going to get helpful advice. This is an advice site. People can’t help you if you don’t tell the truth. Same with therapists. You have to be honest or you can’t progress.

    #1116243 Reply
    Avatar photoCopa
    Participant

    I think the answer is still therapy. Telling the story of your trauma from multiple perspectives to see what kind of advice/reaction it gets? Therapy. Telling a more or less honest account of a gross, abusive parent? Therapy. Completely fabricating a story out of, IDK, boredom? Do literally anything else, but still therapy. I don’t think you’re completely fabricating anything, FYI. IDK what’s going on with you, though. I grew up with a chaotic family, it took me a long time to accept that my dad’s behavior was not okay and sometimes abusive (it looked very different than what you’ve described/been through, but still). I know how it can mess with you and I do hope you will speak to a therapist and get yourself sorted out. Assuming even some of what you’ve written here is true, I don’t think it will be as simple as closing one chapter and starting the next unaffected.

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