I’m a 37-year-old woman, never married and never been pregnant before. I wanted to have kids but it never worked out with any of my relationships before. In January this year I started seeing a 40-year-old guy and I was sleeping with him but I was still getting to know him and wasn’t sure how I felt. After only seeing each other for two months, I got pregnant and it was an accident. We discussed it and he was happy to be a Dad and decided to keep the baby.

I know he really cares for me and loves me. He even mentioned about marriage, though he was also being pressured about it by his religious parents. We’ve been together for six months and I’ve been trying to make the relationship work but I just don’t feel like he’s the right person for me. He’s a nice guy but in terms of conversation, emotionally, common interests, I really don’t think we connect. We don’t talk much and I feel lonely in this relationship. I’ve mentioned to him how I’d like things to be different but there hasn’t really been any change.

I live in a pretty small two bedroom apartment and he lives in a three bedroom house. He has his parents living next door but his mother was rude, pushy and nosey so I don’t really like her. We agreed that I’d move in with him just before having the baby.

I’m just really not sure if I actually want to be with him. I feel lucky that he wants to be there for me and the baby but I don’t think I’m in love with him. I don’t know what to do because I have no family to help me except only my Mum and I’m not well off. He said he might not be able to get any paternity leave from his job so he’ll probably just take about a month of personal leave. I don’t want to be alone with the baby most of the time and take care of him all by myself.

What should I do?