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Incompatible physical touch needs or irrationality at play?

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    bloodymediocrity
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    Pretty weird so many regular posters (myself included) missed this the first time it came though.

    Others have said a lot of good stuff, but one thing I want to call attention to is this statement

    “It does somewhat matter what is normal, as otherwise I’m holding the world to an unreasonable, overly accommodating standard. So, fair point on maybe I shouldn’t be with him.”

    It *really* doesn’t matter what is normal. You absolutely get to decide the level of physical intimacy and touch you are comfortable with, both in the bedroom and outside the bedroom.

    The bottom line is this: you’ve tried to establish a boundary with your boyfriend and he has repeatedly ignored them and hasn’t put even the smallest effort into making you feel comfortable. There’s no reason to believe he’s willing to change.

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