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August 2, 2020 at 9:15 pm #922647FyodorGuest
Strongly recommend. Very addicting.August 3, 2020 at 9:34 am #923947MaterialsGirlParticipant
Totally watched a few episodes last week and I agree.
I know there’s a lot of criticism of the classism and racism within the system (which is good, it should be called out!), but that was a lot of my friends’ experiences in college with parental pressures. Some rose above it, some resigned themselves to it. Others i knew would go to big conventions for their specific subethnicities (like bengali) just to find mates. Ultimately a lot of Irish Catholic-Indian weddings happened (talk about a multi-day drunk fest) for those who decided to go against expectationsAugust 3, 2020 at 9:59 am #923999BittergaymarkGuest
One big failure of the left is often being surprisingly tolerant of Racism, Sexism, Underage Brides, oh, and Homophobia so long as they are done through the prism of some other backwards fucked up culture from another land.
That people watch these shows — much less gleefully appears on them, baffles me.
NEWSFLASH: If the ancestors of many white people had simply given into family pressure we’d all still have slaves. For that matter, had I given into the societal and parental pressures of the 1980s — I’d be married to a very sexually frustrated and rightfully unhappy woman. 🤷♂️
Sorry, but I’m Rather sick and tired of the “But-my-family” bullshit artists. Fuck off already! Your family is fucked up and so are you. Actually, you’re worse. As you know better and are deliberately making a choice.
End. Of. Rant.August 3, 2020 at 10:04 am #924011CopaParticipant
I’ve seen a few episodes and cannot stand Aparna. Omg. (Who doesn’t like humor!?) Plan to finish it soon when I have time.
I haven’t read any reviews or criticism, but anecdotally, one of my high school friends had a very difficult five-year marriage due to family pressure to marry the “right kind” of Indian guy. She picked the guy herself and their relationship was problematic from the get-go, but her parents were SO THRILLED with the match that she kept trying to make it work. It was a beautiful, multi-day wedding, and I remember thinking it was such a shame that I couldn’t see them lasting. It didn’t. His parents thought and let her know that she was a terrible, disrespectful wife every time she bucked tradition — e.g., they expected her to change her first and last name after getting married, as was customary in their culture, and she refused.August 3, 2020 at 10:24 am #924050FyodorGuest
I definitely don’t think that the show endorses the racism/sexism. At the same time, I think that when you immerseively cover something racist/sexist from the perspective of the racist or sexist people involved it does have an effect of normalizing it somewhat. It’s a challenge for this kind of documentary type entertainment, which thrives on immersing the viewer in a different culture.August 3, 2020 at 10:24 am #924051FyodorGuest
The show does mention how several of the participants’ parents were in failed arranged marriages.August 3, 2020 at 10:25 am #924054FyodorGuest
Regarding Aparna, it seems like a lot of these shows like to have someone dislikeable and picky so that the audience can see them fail and cheer.August 3, 2020 at 12:24 pm #924295BittergaymarkGuest
Gee, I can’t wait for The premiere Real Houselives of 14 Year Old Child Brides…
Sorry, but NOT everything should be nearly packaged up as cheery, cheesy, utterly shitty entertainment.August 3, 2020 at 1:12 pm #924394cspGuest
BGM – I think this is a lot like my big fat gypsy wedding. It gives a view of a part of the world that we really didn’t know much about. But you are right that some things are really glossed over.August 18, 2020 at 1:29 pm #961119SaraGuest
Please watch the reunion special with the cast members on Netflix India’s youtube channel. The cast members especially Aparna are completely different when they have no editing.August 19, 2020 at 3:35 pm #961216Culture CorrectionGuest
Thanks BGM, for criticizing racist liberals by calling India “some backwards fucked up culture from another land.” You know, there are people on this website who are not white liberals (and even Indian-American (like me)) so maybe you don’t have to be racist (even sarcastically) when criticizing other people’s views. Or, you know, maybe watch the show before you comment — the show is about modern, well-to-do Indians and Indian-Americans, but feel free to act like it is all about “child brides” and some “backwards fucked up culture from another land.”January 1, 2021 at 9:35 pm #990224BittergaymarkGuest
I stand corrected. Child Brides are so NOT a problem in India. Only 1.5 million girls under the age of 18 are estimated to be forced into marriage there annually. No problem at all. What the fuck was I thinking?