Is she avoiding me
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Thought she liked me. Now since she last said she was staying at her sister’s before Xmas. No texts. We met only once. Met her on the Bumble App. I tried to make conversation by using emoji with a sad face. Then sent her a text I see how you are. I was nice to hear. She said this is a busy month for her at work. She must not be interested in me by ghosting me?
I have a lady acquaintance that texts me almost daily but isn’t in love with me.
So you went on one date, and then before Christmas she said she was going to stay with family and you haven’t heard from her. You then sent her a sad face emoji and a text that said “I see how you are.” And after that she said she was busy?
Is that correct?
I really don’t think she’s interested, but if she had been, those texts you sent are a real turn-off. That said, someone who’s interested after a date and wants to keep things going, WILL text you. She didn’t. So yeah, I think you got the polite fade. And no, she actually doesn’t owe you any explanation. Would it be nice for her to reach out and let you know she’s not interested? Sure. But when women do that, they get berated and insulted, so we find it safer not to do that. Her behavior, though, is telling you not interested.
Sending an emoji isn’t making conversation. If you’d wanted to send one last text to see if she was trying to fade away, you could’ve asked her out for a second date. I doubt it would’ve yielded a different outcome here, but it’s a better approach than sending passive aggressive texts. Being nice to someone is the bare minimum, btw, and you are not entitled to another date because you were nice.
She said she was busy with her dog grooming job. It’s true working with dogs tires you out. I did it one day. She wasn’t much conversation even before she met me in person. She wasn’t very conversational and she told me she lived without a guy for 45 years. She said her role model is her friend that lives apart from her boyfriend she thinks is a relationship. I guess she is into herself not wanting a relationship.
It doesn’t even should like you’re interested in her, so why the hangup?
It sounds like there just wasn’t any chemistry here. So yeah, no second date or follow up messages. That’s just how it is. Expect it a lot while dating.
Yeah, I was wondering too, why are you interested in her? Are you even?
Dog grooming is not a 24/7 job, though I’m sure it does get busy around the holidays. If someone is telling you they’re too busy with their job to see you, they just aren’t interested in you. We’ve all learned this the hard way.
And I really want to give you the benefit of the doubt that something isn’t coming through very well over the forum here, but you’re kind of coming off pretty rude. For example:
“Then sent her a text I see how you are.”
“I guess she is into herself not wanting a relationship.”
You might want to study up on proper online etiquette if this if you want to have any luck communicating with strangers on the internet.
He’s not being rude. He has a right to his opinions. Are you being rude yourself? Define rude? Define etiquette? Are you a fact checker? Sounds like you got hung over how he said something. It’s called free speech protected by the First Amendment. You shouldnt be so picky by how people say something to expose someone they dated. Maybe your one of those nerds that needs to go outside and smell the fresh air. In other words just chill man.
Anyway. BloodyMediocrity wasn’t being rude at all there, his comment was polite. And accurate. Your texts to this woman, your assessment of her here in this thread, and your ridiculous tirade as “Jose,” including name-calling and invoking the first amendment – your attitude is crap. It’s getting you nowhere in dating and you should clean it up.
Hey man, you came here for advice. There’s no need to invoke your constitutional rights. You’re free to continue to talk to people however you want, just stop acting surprised when people avoid you.
