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I have a friend and anytime I have a problem in life or am going through something thr moment I tell her she says she also has a problem and talks about her problem. It’s either that or she’ll mention something super random when I’m talking.
Now a days I just say I don’t want to Tlk about the problem and she’ll say that’s fine and just start talking about her problems. I have another firned and she’s been very considerate and she’ll not bombard me with problems I’d she knows I’m having a hard time with something else in life.
Also anytime this friend has problems with her boyfriend she’ll tell me which is fine but the whole day and all the comevrstaition is centered around the problem with the boyfriend. When we see her boyfriend she’ll be petty with him and not say what’s wrong to him. That’s fine cause that’s her reaktionship but this makes the whole vibe at the table really weird especially since we all planned to hangout as a group.
Also when j broke up with my boyfriend she had a problem with her boyfriend the day after and the ENTIRE day she just called cried and asked me for advice but she didn’t even bother to ask how I was doing or even if it was okay to discuss something so emotional especially after I went through breakup the day before.
My question is is this okay am I overreacting? Cause I don’t midn listening to problems and usually I am very good at solving others’ problems and my own but it would be nice to have someone to listen to you especially when taht person is such a close friend….peggyGuest
Well,friends are usually “there” for each other. If you feel you are there for your friend and they are not there for you, you have 2 choices. #1, you speak up and tell your friend you are happy to listen and help,but you need the same back,,,or you realize the friendship is”one sided” and not a mutual give and take, and you fade out out it.