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Which is her favorite kind.
For practice, try answering LW questions without being rude, and with actually giving advice, which in this case you didn’t until I pointed it out (my comment and some others are still missing). Like, just, “You know, it could be he likes a different kind of cake better. Have you asked him?” Would be great.
You can throw a “rather” in there somewhere to give it your personal spin.BittergaymarkGuest
Look. If I asked for Madonna records every year for my birthday.
And my partner never once bought me any…
It might stand to reason that my partner simply loathes Madonna. (Many People do.) For someone to suggest that he finds her vomitilicious would be an insult to Madonna. Yes. To me … eh, not so much.
Look, be nice. There’s nothing to argue about here.
That would be an insult to your taste in music.
Just like telling someone the cake they like is never bought for them because it’s disgusting is an insult to this person’s taste and isn’t helpful for her at all.BittergaymarkGuest
My point / advice was suggesting that if somebody repeatedly refuses to buy somebody else a certain kind of birthday cake… one very possible reason for that might be somebody simply HATES that kind of cake.
My initial advice was to explore that option.
Next time just say that please.
Eh, maybe like me he simply thinks red velvet cake is vomitlicious. It looks rather like raw meat and tastes like third rate chocolate. ?
But then… I’ve also never told people flat out what cake to buy me for my birthday. Honestly? That would simply never occur to me. I was always just happy to get a cake. ?
There’s literally no advice or what you’re now claiming to have said. You’re third comment you tell her how popular hating that cake is and then suggest she ask him- and that was after many other comments also wrote that she should ask him and Wendy’s tech issues deleted all those comments calling you out for being insulting.
She wasn’t asking for a possible reason. She was asking if she was being an asshole.
It’s her birthday and you’re being a jerk as usual, even after a Wendy told you to cut it out last month.BittergaymarkGuest
It’s called subtext. I was suggesting he very well might hate that kind cake. I do. And it struck a chord with me. It also certainly would explain why he continually refuses to buy it. Frankly, if I was her… I’d want to know. So it struck me as an avenue worth exploring before assuming he is out to maliciously destroy her birthday.
Suggesting that a LW may like something others (including her boyfriend) do not is hardly the slam of the century.
If the LW is insulted. Fine. Let her ask for an apology — and one will be given. Frankly, I think it’s insulting you think she’s THAT fragile.
Mark, you were asked to take a long break if you couldn’t be decently polite on here. You didn’t take a long break and you’re still acting like an ass and coming at Anonymousse AGAIN after that disgusting series of comments on the birthday party thread.
It’s interesting you think stating your opinion over and over your with vomiting emojis needs explanation to be understood.
It doesn’t matter that you want to call that subtext, which it was anything but- it’s still not advice which is what this site is for. It’s not “Mark’s site to insult and scream at everyone” when things strike a chord for you, which happens all the time.
There’s a whole world of sites to with comment sections you can insult people on. This is an advice site.