January 16, 2022 at 11:41 am #1101875barleystonksGuest
I just wanted to jump in and say that I have been coming to this site progressively less and less over the years because of bgm. I stopped commenting years ago because of bgm. so thank you.January 16, 2022 at 2:12 pm #1101879anonymousseParticipant
Hi Barley! I remember you. Welcome back.January 17, 2022 at 10:06 am #1101904Dear WendyKeymaster
Welcome back, barley!January 17, 2022 at 12:42 pm #1101910CanadaGooseGuest
I miss the BGM posts. Admittedly, I took the snark with a huge boulder of salt given his handle – bitter was expected. There were times he’d have that ‘kid in the crowd announcing the emperor was nude’ approach and I enjoyed that. Clearly, you don’t want to drive others away or make them feel bad and it seems that did happen. I am a bit worried about his mental health, as he expressed suicidal thoughts many times. Exclusion and rejection can be really hard on people in that mental space, so I really h
ope he is finding supportive connections elsewhere and starts feeling happier.January 17, 2022 at 12:45 pm #1101911Dear WendyKeymaster
I have concern for him, too, CG, and hope he’s leaning in to his supportive connections.January 17, 2022 at 12:47 pm #1101913KateGuest
I hope so too, however, his mental health is his responsibility, not ours, and he had many warnings to stop being rude and insulting to commenters. Not to mention, he was starting to make posts suggesting that folks actually kill other folks with guns, so…January 17, 2022 at 12:57 pm #1101914
(Which I deleted, along with his more overtly mean comments, but I’m not always awake or coherent).January 17, 2022 at 1:03 pm #1101915CanadaGooseGuest
Kate, I didn’t see any posts like that but of course I don’t see them all like you and Wendy. I’m just concerned but obviously that’s not ok. Eep.January 17, 2022 at 1:22 pm #1101916
Message him on Facebook and ask if he’s okay! I’m sure if you like him and have followed his posts, you’ve seen him give his FB name. If not, email Wendy and she can tell you.
But yes, do keep in mind that your moderators here are clearing out unacceptable crap regularly so that you never have to see it. There were many comments of his that were not okay to be left up.January 17, 2022 at 1:39 pm #1101918Guy FridayParticipant
I’ll admit the “this is a site for women” comment a few pages back threw me for a second, but hopefully I haven’t crossed any lines even when I have been particularly set on a given point (and I don’t think I have, but my anxiety always likes to check in 🙂 ). Hey, as long as I can raise concerns to mods if any come up, I’m good.January 17, 2022 at 1:50 pm #1101920
You’re not rude.
I think some of you aren’t getting it. First, you can’t come on here and insult people, it says it right in the forum rules. You also can’t incite violence, like urging people to take up arms against people with different political beliefs. It’s not okay to tell child sexual assault victims that you know better than they do, and mock their experience.
Just don’t do any of that and you’re fine. Again, we could have left those comments up so you can all see how disgusting they are, but that makes this an unsafe place for everyone else.January 17, 2022 at 2:02 pm #1101922
Oh and. If the person who’s website this is asks you to take a long break, and you don’t, but instead come back in less than a week still insulting people, that’s also not okay.