fbpx
Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

It’s just a cake?

Home Forums Advice & Chat It’s just a cake?

Viewing 12 posts - 61 through 72 (of 76 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • #1101875 Reply
    Avatar photobarleystonks
    Guest

    I just wanted to jump in and say that I have been coming to this site progressively less and less over the years because of bgm. I stopped commenting years ago because of bgm. so thank you.

    #1101879 Reply
    anonymousse
    Participant

    Hi Barley! I remember you. Welcome back.

    #1101904 Reply
    Avatar photoDear Wendy
    Keymaster

    Welcome back, barley!

    #1101910 Reply
    CanadaGoose
    Guest

    I miss the BGM posts. Admittedly, I took the snark with a huge boulder of salt given his handle – bitter was expected. There were times he’d have that ‘kid in the crowd announcing the emperor was nude’ approach and I enjoyed that. Clearly, you don’t want to drive others away or make them feel bad and it seems that did happen. I am a bit worried about his mental health, as he expressed suicidal thoughts many times. Exclusion and rejection can be really hard on people in that mental space, so I really h
    ope he is finding supportive connections elsewhere and starts feeling happier.

    #1101911 Reply
    Avatar photoDear Wendy
    Keymaster

    I have concern for him, too, CG, and hope he’s leaning in to his supportive connections.

    #1101913 Reply
    Kate
    Guest

    I hope so too, however, his mental health is his responsibility, not ours, and he had many warnings to stop being rude and insulting to commenters. Not to mention, he was starting to make posts suggesting that folks actually kill other folks with guns, so…

    #1101914 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    (Which I deleted, along with his more overtly mean comments, but I’m not always awake or coherent).

    #1101915 Reply
    CanadaGoose
    Guest

    Kate, I didn’t see any posts like that but of course I don’t see them all like you and Wendy. I’m just concerned but obviously that’s not ok. Eep.

    #1101916 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Message him on Facebook and ask if he’s okay! I’m sure if you like him and have followed his posts, you’ve seen him give his FB name. If not, email Wendy and she can tell you.

    But yes, do keep in mind that your moderators here are clearing out unacceptable crap regularly so that you never have to see it. There were many comments of his that were not okay to be left up.

    #1101918 Reply
    Avatar photoGuy Friday
    Participant

    I’ll admit the “this is a site for women” comment a few pages back threw me for a second, but hopefully I haven’t crossed any lines even when I have been particularly set on a given point (and I don’t think I have, but my anxiety always likes to check in 🙂 ). Hey, as long as I can raise concerns to mods if any come up, I’m good.

    #1101920 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    You’re not rude.

    I think some of you aren’t getting it. First, you can’t come on here and insult people, it says it right in the forum rules. You also can’t incite violence, like urging people to take up arms against people with different political beliefs. It’s not okay to tell child sexual assault victims that you know better than they do, and mock their experience.

    Just don’t do any of that and you’re fine. Again, we could have left those comments up so you can all see how disgusting they are, but that makes this an unsafe place for everyone else.

    #1101922 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Oh and. If the person who’s website this is asks you to take a long break, and you don’t, but instead come back in less than a week still insulting people, that’s also not okay.

Viewing 12 posts - 61 through 72 (of 76 total)
Reply To: Reply #1101922 in It’s just a cake?
Your information: