And I can’t tell you how many times some new (always female!) commenter has written in with a problem she’s having, and BGM would immediately say something extremely mean, without advice. And then the OP would be like, oh, I guess that’s how this forum is, and would rip into him, calling names, often with something homophobic, and there’d be this 3rd-grade level back & forth that he LOVES, and I’d have to babysit and delete all their comments and close the thread. So yeah, don’t do that either.
No, I got THAT part. I was saying I was originally thrown off by the comment for the reasons other people had stated, but then recognized the meaning behind it. Trust me, if I felt like the site was hostile to me, there’s a big red X in the upper right corner I can utilize 🙂 I know exactly what you mean about BGM’s comments, and I echo the sentiments you raised; even his valid points were buried by the tone in which they were given. You can disagree with someone without calling them stupid.
I think my comment a few pages back about this site being for women was misunderstood, and that’s my fault for being inelegant in the way I phrased it. This is a site for women in that it is a space where they are safe and their experiences will be respected. This is also a space for other genders, as long as they maintain a respect for women, which nearly everyone here does.