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    JD

    Don’t really get why YOU are involving his parents. I am assuming you are young but thinking have to be over 18. He is responsible for where he sleeps and getting out of your house. Texting them to say he cheated? That’s really weird and immature. Your relationship is between the two of you. You don’t involve others in your crap.

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    JD Is right. You really don’t pull this tiresome parental bullshit.

    #813718 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Uh…if his sex happened during your “break” how are his actions truly sny different than yours? I am confused. At any rate, wow. Isn’t monogomy great?

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    ellie j

    He had sex while we were together. He texted her before we broke up, trying to meet up multiple times while we were together. We broke up for a week, and he had sex after we got back together. But he was trying to say that after I made out with some guy he began to take the relationship not seriously, blaming on me, but i agree that it is just a way to find an excuse to blame me.

    it just hurt me that i met his parents and that they are also manipulated by him that they believe i also cheated on him, and they seem unaware he has been trying to cheat even before he came here. He claimed that after he booked his flight here he started believing in us, but few days after he booked the flight he was trying to meet up with her (i read the messages) Thats why i feel painful and wanting to explain to his parents, but i guess it is just unnecessary and i should move on.

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    ellie j

    Oh, and the reason i texted his parents were he was completely broke, and his money was coming next week that i did not want to book his airbnb on my own. Also, he told me his parents know about the girl, telling me they also said it is not necessary to tell me about this. I think he was just lying, again, to convince me that even his parents said it is not a big deal, before i actually had a talk with the girl. And he insisted staying in my place trying to convince me, so thats why i reached out his parents thinking they already know about the girl (as he claimed before) and for the money, thinking i could get some help from their parents, but i guess they were also manipulated by him again. Since i loved his parents a lot, i feel so much to explain everything so that they dont merely believe what he is telling them, ( i think they believe i also cheated on him and he cheated on me only one time) but im not sure if its the right thing to do, since im already done with that guy.

    I charged the half of his flight and told him to send me when he gets his money next week, and hopefully he does.

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    anonymousse
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    Regardless of what he said, or what you don’t want them to think of you, it’s really strange to involve his parents in this. You can’t control what people think of you, and since he’s no longer your bf, they won’t be in your life. For all you know, they did know about this person. It just comes off childish and like you are a tattle tale.

    It wasn’t your place to contact them for money he owes you. You should have just kicked him out and been done with the whole situation.

    Unfortunately, you probably won’t get the money back. I hope you do, but you might not.

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    ellie j

    Ok, ill stop thinking about reaching out his parents anymore since he is not my bf anymore, but it pains me that they also would be thinking i cheated on him and his son is innocent, as he lied to me tying to blame on me, but i guess its something that i should stop caring..

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    Kate

    I get needing to reach out to them if you need him out of your apartment and they’re the ones with the money. Unfortunately it sounds like he’s trying to frame this sudden need for money for an air bnb as due to you having been the one that cheated, so he doesn’t look like the bad guy to his parents. I don’t know if there’s anything you can do to get them to believe you over him or if it even matters. I would just politely ask for your money and say no hard feelings, wish you all the best. Thank you, next.

    #813728 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Oh, grow up. Seriously.

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    Fyodor

    Who cares what his parents think of you or if they think it’s your fault. The world is full of people, some of whom might think poorly of you.

    If I could have learned one piece of breakup advice to my younger self it would be to disengage and disentangle yourself as quickly and thoroughly as possible. Do not try to get them or others to think that you are the victim or good guy. Cut them out of your mind and move on.

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    ron

    He was wrong! You were wrong! His parents have the wrong impression! You were both wrong! Really, who cares? It just doesn’t matter and your continued emotional obsession with this is a combination of the initial stage of grief and mental masturbation. The only thing that matters: it’s over! You had a LD relationship, something which fails more often than not, even when preceded by a strong, in-person relationship of significant duration. Really – I know three couples who were married and yet broke up after a year of LD, two with the guy cheating. An LDR is a really tough road. Yours didn’t work. Forget him; forget his parents; just heal yourself and move on. Look for an in-person relationship, when you are ready to date again.

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    ellie j

    i kicked him out yesterday, and he stayed in airbnb for one night. his friend was supposed to pick him up today so that he could stay at his friend’s. He is calling me like crazy saying his friend cant come anymore and his parents are sleeping (its 3am where he’s parents at), and he is freezing and he does not know what to do, calling and begging me. we agreed on him giving the half of my flight next week when the money comes, ( i think i deserve everything but, i was still glad with half lol) so i did not block him until then.i never want to accept him and let him stay here for a night, but he is saying he walked all the way home and he is homeless, keep calling me and begging me. im seriously hating.

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