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    avatarFirstLast
    Participant

    Hey guys, want to share, may sound superficial, but is very complex and simple at the same time. i love my gf, but i dont think she´s attractive enought. Sex is good & all, when im with her i forget this, but everytime i see a woman, more my… style? i think im missing out on something. Sometimes i picture another woman when im with her. But at the end, her character is aweseome, we get along great, and share values.

    #1030611 Reply
    avatarFYI
    Guest

    omg, break up. She deserves way better.

    #1030612 Reply
    avatarFirstLast
    Participant

    Great advice! thank you for taking the time to say nothing.

    #1030613 Reply
    avatarbloodymediocrity
    Participant

    I think a bit more context would be helpful. How long have you been together?

    It’s normal to still find other women attractive, but if this is a young relationship and you’re already cooling, you may as well move on, because it is unlikely to get better.

    If this is a long-standing relationship, this might just be a normal wandering eye. If you are otherwise happy in the relationship, just accept that you’re attracted to other women and live with that.

    #1030614 Reply
    avataranonymousse
    Participant

    If you think you’re missing out by being with her, you probably should break up with her. Would you want to be with someone who thought they could do better than you? You think you deserve better, right?

    #1030615 Reply
    avatarktfran
    Participant

    I’m with FYI on this one.

    #1030622 Reply
    avatarHelen
    Guest

    You talk about your girlfriend like she’s an accessory. Like a Rolex or something. You wish you had someone that makes you look better. Hope you’re in tip top shape & have the bank account to match your aspirations. Let your gf go so she can do better

    #1030623 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    It might be “normal” to look at other people and find them attractive, but it’s not normal to think your partner isn’t attractive enough for you. If that’s the case, you need to break it off in fairness to your partner so that they can be with someone who’s attracted to them. You’re being selfish to not set her free.

    #1030625 Reply
    avatarLisforLeslie
    Guest

    You should break up with her. You have one foot out the door on the relationship and it sounds like if someone more your “style” gave you a shot, you’d be out the door in a flash.

    If you don’t look at your girlfriend and think “I’m so lucky.” then you need to let her go so she can find that person.

    She deserves someone better than you.

    #1030627 Reply
    avatarHazel
    Participant

    in what way do you think this is complex? I can’t see any complexity here. After you free this woman with the “awesome character” so that she can have an opportunity to meet someone who will properly appreciate her, take time to reflect and develop some maturity.Whoever you go out with, you will constantly see more attractive people, and unless you learn to deal with this your relationships will always be lacking.

    #1030632 Reply
    avatarFYI
    Guest

    I didn’t say “nothing,” friend. You just don’t like the answer.

    #1030650 Reply
    avatarCopa
    Participant

    You need to break up. It’s okay to have a physical type (I assume this is what you’re referring to). Plenty of people happily date and settle down with people who aren’t their typical type. But it seems like you can’t get past it despite her other great qualities. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few years, I still find other men attractive sometimes, but I don’t have FOMO when I see some hot, totally my physical type dude at the store or whatever. So yeah, time to move on. You can find someone more your style, she can find someone who fully appreciates her.

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