I say friend… we’ve only known each other about a year, but got along very quickly. We’ve a lot of similar interests and sense of humor, and can even talk about the more serious things. He’s a good guy, if a little odd at times.
Lately, however, his mood’s been up and down. He told me a bit about it; he’s trying to think about the next stages of his life, getting broody, and wondering if he should settle down. All very reasonable.
What’s NOT reasonable is his attitude. He’s getting snarky at times, and because we talk so often unfortunately I’ve been witnessing this. Me. We have a group chat with a bunch of people, but for some reason he gets cranky with ME.
I’ve tried to be nice about it. But it’s starting to get to me.
The other day it got bad after I had a serious discussion with ANOTHER friend in private. About life, relationship, etc. He tried to give me some advice that didnt suit me and I laughed about it in the group chat.
Well this guy got SO MAD on my behalf. Started saying my friend was “full of it”, “shouldn’t be preaching just because he’s married” and “dont listen to him – you’re better than that”. I stopped replying because honestly it was such an extreme reaction, and when I tried to ask if something was wrong later he replied “ask that guy on your next date. he has all the answers”
I went quiet again and he finally messaged to apologize, saying he knew he’d been rude/out of line. I asked if I had done anything but just got “You dont need to apologize. And you don’t need to change. Only if you want to.”
I let it go then, but honestly its left a sour taste in my mouth. I don’t know why he’s being this way. I also don’t know if I want to continue talking to him if he’s going to take his “bad moods” out on me/my other friends. Any advice on how to handle him? Or what to say?