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BridgetMay 10, 2023 at 8:49 am #1120102
My husband and I have been in a really bad spot in our relationship for a while. We can’t agree on anything I feel as though I’m being understanding and pushed thin and he feels as though I’m just picking on every little thing and can’t let anything go.
We have been together 9years and married 7 of those years. He came into the relationship with 3 kids I came with 2 and we had 1 together. The beginning was amazing I treated his kids as my own loved them, fought tooth and nail to help him get visitation and everything set up. His ex would drive by our house multiple times a weekend and we lived 20-30 min away, she stocked us on Facebook, she called 36 times and called 23 time in the matter of 30 min. She was controlling and stocking, we eventually called the cops and had her arrested for harassment. My mother in law feels as though we should have sucked it up and dealt with it. My step children have unfortunately been brainwashed by their mother have told me on multiple occasions that they wish I would have another heart attack and die this time. My mother in law again thinks I need to let it go. My step children have called me names, roll their eyes, come in my house and will not even acknowledge me and yet again my mother in law thinks I should just deal with it and not say anything to them. Come to find out that my mother in law has been going around to our friends trying to make them not talk to us anymore, telling them lies and these friends have called us to tell us, my mother in law yelled at my husband for going to college as he didn’t need to why did he need to she didn’t and she is fine however she isn’t. Then she came to our house this weekend our guest in our home and belittled everything we said to our children basically told us in front of our kids that I’m a bad parent a bad step mom and they shouldn’t have to listen to me. My husband thinks I am over reacting and should just get over it and move on I however am tired of the same thing time and time again. My sister in law has cancer and doesn’t even want to see her mom still because of how the stuff is going on how she has treated them and the parent she was while they were going up. Am I being to sensitive?AnonymousseMay 10, 2023 at 9:46 am #1120103
It sounds like you have an issue with your husband most of all. I don’t know if you’re being too sensitive. Things sound really bad within your family and maybe you should get a professional’s take on ways to descalate and repair the relationships if that’s even what you want.
I don’t think you’re being too sensitive. I agree with @Anonymousse that your husband sounds like a problem. He should really be the one dealing with his ex and his mom and disciplining his kids if they are disrespectful or out of line. It doesn’t sound like you are a team at all. Couples counseling is probably a good idea.ronMay 10, 2023 at 12:13 pm #1120172
Your husband needs to learn to stand up to his mother.