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December 30, 2021 at 7:37 pm #1101399LeeGuest
Been writing multiple women in prison. Two like me. They never ask me for money. So far. One told her friend she wants to marry me. I put a small amount on her prison account. She hasn’t called me since. Unless she is using funds I gave her for envelopes. I don’t connect well with local ladies.December 30, 2021 at 7:41 pm #1101401HazelParticipant
So what is your question?December 31, 2021 at 11:24 am #1101408ReplyGuest
Would a relationship really work with a person in jail?December 31, 2021 at 11:32 am #1101409KateKeymaster
I don’t think so. You said you don’t connect well with women on the outside, and it sounds like you’re trying to get around that by doing a pen-pal thing where there’s a natural power imbalance, to try to meet women from a stronger position. And that’s not even working. Even if you did get some regular communication going with someone, it’s not a real relationship because you don’t really know each other, and because she’d be trying to give you what you want in order to keep you interested, and you’d also probably be pretending.
I think your better option is to work out why you’re not connecting with women and try to improve. Do you have anyone that can be brutally honest with you about your appearance, your hygiene, your style, how you communicate? Any access to social services or therapy or support groups or ANYTHING you could take advantage of to improve your interactions?December 31, 2021 at 3:13 pm #1101414anonymousseParticipant
Listen to Kate.January 1, 2022 at 9:07 am #1101423AlGuest
Therapy doesn’t work. Already tried that. A therapist said my thinking is normal. What I’m doing is normal. I could improve myself but than I would just be in the same situation.January 1, 2022 at 11:54 am #1101428ronGuest
Try a different therapist. Why can’t you connect well with local women? How local have you confined yourself to? I think you should try a different therapist. Seeking female companionship of conversation by contacting women in prison is not normal and you seem to already realize that the prisoner who was ‘interested’ in you took your money and ghosted you. At least she gives you some credit for smarts, I would have expected her to con you for more and more money, until you ghosted her.January 1, 2022 at 12:14 pm #1101429anonymousseParticipant
Try another therapist. I don’t think trying to make a relationship solely based in fantasy is ever going to work in the way you say you want it to. By being imprisoned, they are totally unavailable. It makes no sense to go after women you can’t meet in person who aren’t available for a relationship in real life. I don’t know what therapist recommend you try to date women in prison, but you need a different opinion.January 3, 2022 at 4:46 pm #1101485BittergaymarkGuest
I’d be very careful about writing to strangers that are incarcerated. That all too often doesn’t end up very well.
Just don’t.January 3, 2022 at 4:48 pm #1101486BittergaymarkGuest
And yes to the other’s point. I, too, think you had a not so good fit therapist.