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- June 24, 2019 at 3:14 am #846112
I broke up with my ex because I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship, but now I’m ready and I want to get back together. But, he’s sending me mixed signals. For example, we call for hours, he always holds my stuff for me, he touches my arm a lot, and mirrors my actions but whenever I text him about hanging out, he leaves me on read. He also said that he likes someone else, but I don’t know if he’s just trying to make me jealous because the girl he likes lives really far away and when I asked about her he said “why are you jealous? why do you want to know so bad?” Do you think he likes me?June 24, 2019 at 4:39 am #846121
Just ask him if he wants to go out again. You’re thinking about this too much.
Odds are, you guys have a flirty repore, but he thinks you’re not interested because you broke up with him. So now it’s on you to make the next move. He won’t do it because he’s respecting the boundaries you put in place.June 24, 2019 at 7:41 am #846126
This is on you! You dumped him – so you need to make the next move and express interest in getting back together. And if he does, he’ll deserve a clear explanation of what has changed for you since the breakup and why you are excited to make it work this time.June 24, 2019 at 10:17 am #846133
Use your words and tell him how you feel. Be honest with him.June 24, 2019 at 10:31 am #846137
Relationships don’t work unless you communicate. Middle school kids say “Do you think he likes me?” Adults talk to each other.
If you’re not able to do that, then you’re not ready to be dating.June 24, 2019 at 10:43 am #846140
It’s totally understandable that he’s unsure and not making a move on you. You broke up with him. It’s your trust to put yourself out there and be vulnerable for a minute.June 24, 2019 at 7:12 pm #846168
Trying to read his “signals” is not very useful because in the end you’re going to need to just tell him how you feel and ask how he feels. Maybe he’s still into you. Maybe he is, but does not want to date again. Maybe he’s not. Any of those things could be possible.June 24, 2019 at 8:09 pm #846175
He said he likes someone else. What would you mean if you said that? I think the conversation where he said that was you testing the waters. You can be more upfront but I suspect you
already have your answer. I’d move on.June 25, 2019 at 11:11 am #846260
Assume that the words coming out of his mouth have a singular meaning.
Him: I like someone else
Actual meaning: He likes someone else.
Your incorrect interpretation: I want you to be jealous
And not for nothing but if a person says something with the express purpose of making someone jealous or confused, then that person is playing games. You don’t need that. It’s exhausting.June 25, 2019 at 12:12 pm #846264
No, I don’t think he likes you. I think you still like him, and you want him to still like you, so it’s creating painful feelings for you.
But, he doesn’t want to get back together with you. He has told you in plain, simple language, that he likes someone else, and has told you you shouldn’t feel jealous (because he’s not going to get back with you).June 25, 2019 at 12:17 pm #846266
Although, what do you have to lose by being very clear “I think I made a mistake in breaking up with you. I’d like to get back together”?
Likely he’ll be like, “Oohhh I’ve moved on”, but then you’ll know for sure and you can move on. Assuming that he’s not interested in getting back together and that makes it hard to be around him, I might suggest you give yourself some distance and stop hanging out with him all the time.June 25, 2019 at 12:28 pm #846269
LOL @LisforLeslie, your summary is spot on.