- May 9, 2020 at 8:04 pm #885692ashmack93Participant
Tomorrow is Mother’s Day! And usually we often hear from our husbands “what do you want for Mother’s Day?” I LOVE effort. I love the kind gestures. All i really want is a clean house, and breakfast in bed would be so sweet! However, I say this every year and it always feels like he never listened to begin with lol. He’s the type of person that feels like he needs to buy something whether that’s flowers, ect. Don’t get me wrong, I love those things as well. But he always buys but doesn’t ever do the things I really want. This year he asked me, and again I said the same thing. We went to the groceries tonight and I kept hinting and asking if we need breakfast stuff which he replied “No, we have plenty of cereal, poptars, etc 🙄 he wasn’t getting it at all! Has anyone else had to go through this?May 10, 2020 at 5:01 pm #885720anonymousseParticipant
I tell my husband explicitly what I want. I find that open, honest, straight talk-no bullshit hinting communication works the best.May 10, 2020 at 5:42 pm #885721dinocerosParticipant
I’m confused. Do you tell him what you want or do you just hint? Because at the beginning, it sounds like you do tell him, but then you refer to hinting at the grocery store. If he asks what you want, and you say, “I want you to make me breakfast in bed. I like eggs and pancakes. I also want you to clean the house.” And he ignores you, then that’s an issue. That would warrant a conversation (not when you’re being gifted something) where you say, “Hey, you ask what I want and when I tell you, you get me something else. I’m confused about why you do that?” But if you’re just hinting the whole time, then that’s really not effective, and you can’t expect him to be a mind reader. Tell him explicitly next time. And depending on how understanding you are of him not catching on by himself, you could also ask him if he’s bought ingredients for your breakfast yet.