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My best friend abused his ex gf but that's in the past… now theres drama

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    LisforLeslie

    I know this is dead but I’m just so impressed. I know that sometimes the folks on here fighty-fight-fight when we have different perspectives, experiences or opinions on matters.

    OP – if you’re still out there… you did something quite remarkable; you presented your argument, where you’re the good guy, and every single person that contributed disagreed with you. Most times that happens only when someone is like “This situation is fucked up right?” and everyone is like “Yes, that’s fucked up! Hell yeah it’s fucked up!”

    I guess we all agree that you and D are fucked up.

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    Tiara

    D is very much still your typical abuser. The most you can say he did was write a letter, clearly he’s changed. 🙄 And yet he has that rally of people behind him excusimg his behavior. People get cheated on all the time and while it hurts we don’t abuse our partner for it. And as for the rest of the *terrible* things A did? She got emotional because Ds buddies went out and harrassed her, only then for her to find out that her BEST FRIEND was spending time with her abuser. That would make ANYONE have an emotional outburst, and I dont blame her at all for telling you off. She didn’t hit you (like D did to her when he got mad) she yelled at you. Boo fucking hoo. D hasn’t changed, and one day when he finally convinces you to be with him, you’ll get to see that firsthand. Hopefully you have better friends than A did. Oh and as for your current boyfriend, I hope for your sake hes a better guy than D and doesnt abuse you when you inevitably cheat on him with D. Because that is exactly where your “friendship” is heading.

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    ron

    From the way it was written, it was far from clear to me that A had actually cheated, as in had sex with another guy, while she was still dating D, before he abused her physically and she left. It was coupled as a charge with ‘moved on too quickly’ as if D felt ownership, even after he physically abused her and she left, so anything she did with another guy after she left and before he agreed that is was appropriate for her to be gone was cheating.

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    Tiara

    Ron, I honestly don’t think A cheated either. I think thats the excuse D is using and all his friends are choosing to believe so they can excuse themselves for their own shitty behavior. The point of my post was more that even if it were true it doesn’t excuse what he or they did to poor A.

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    Ruby Tuesday

    If these college kids were anything like me with my old livejournal, I bet they’re still lurking out there.

    LW, if one of your friends beat the shit out of you, would you still feel safe around the person who assaulted you? Would you forgive that person, a person who never apologized and continued to harass you? Would you feel comfortable spending time that person? Would you want to spend time around those people who kept ties with the person who assaulted you?

    Wake the fuck up.

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