The more you share, the worse this sounds.
He wants the two of you to be employed at the same place because he doesn’t trust you? Do you really not see how fucked up that is? He is not a good person. He is a controller and I wouldn’t be surprised if this escalates to abuse. I agree that it sounds like projection – it’s classic behaviour for a cheater to project their own untrustworthiness onto their partner and accuse them of cheating. He might not be physically cheating, but I’d be willing to bet he’s at least sexting these “sexy women things”.
You need to stop making excuses and get out of this relationship and out of this living situation as soon as possible.CorinneApril 20, 2018 at 2:55 pm #750353
I have to admit that I have wondered why he doesn’t make the kid do his homework himself
But then again my stepfather was so much more passive
He is a loving father
But the ex thing coming here gives me migraines so sometimes I just freak out cause it feels like my home is being invadedCorinneApril 20, 2018 at 2:56 pm #750354
He does somewhat gamble his money
JFC Corrine. Nothing will change because he doesn’t value you as an equal partner. You are beneath him, that’s how he views you, and women in general. He won’t let you work, or do anything because he doesn’t trust you. That’s hint #1 that he would cheat if given the chance. He doesn’t respect women.
He’s not a good father if he can’t discipline and teach his son to respect him.
So your breakdowns are because of this ex? Interesting. I thought he helped you throughout them? But he causes them?
And he gambles the money you do/did have.
How can you not see how bad this is, how much worse it can and probably will get?
Please listen to the chorus of people here, and in your actual life who are telling you to leave him.