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From a LW:
“I went no contact with my ex and his family over 2 years ago. My ex is a drug addict. His mother is an enabler. His sister is a “Karen” to the 10th degree.
I had to get a restraining order against my ex. I tried to maintain a relationship with his mother because my mom passed years ago and I wanted my child to have some kind of family aside from just me. Instead of respecting the order, the grandmother allowed my ex to visit my child. So we tried supervised visits for awhile, but ultimately I felt so uncomfortable, I ended all contact.
Now when they see us in public, they try to get my child to come over to them. They talk over me to her, completely ignoring my existence. The grandmother went so far as to try to get my child’s information from her school. They have the whole family red flagged at the office now. Today, she showed up at the school’s basketball game to look for her. My child saw her first and left.
I am at a loss as to what I can do. Technically, they haven’t done anything wrong since the order is lifted, but I’m paranoid, anxious, and scared for my child’s safety.”AnonymousseOctober 4, 2023 at 11:08 am #1125836
It sounds like you’re doing everything you can. I am so sorry you’re going through this. It must be really hard and scary. How old is your child? Is there anyone in his family who is sober and levelheaded that you could try to reach out to to help you? Perhaps they could be a middleman and talk some sense into this family. Otherwise, I would stay with your daughter as much as possible and call the police if anything untoward happens. That’s all you can really do. Perhaps you could contact and consult a lawyer or reach out to local law enforcement or a women’s DV org to ask what to do. Even though you haven’t been abused, it’s your child and they may be able to point to good resources.AnonymousseOctober 4, 2023 at 11:11 am #1125837
It’s really good your daughter’s school knows, I would ask the guidance counselor for advice, too. I’m so sorry. Just make sure your daughter knows this is weird and not right. Hugs.AnonymousseOctober 4, 2023 at 11:11 am #1125838
It’s really good your daughter’s school knows, I would ask the guidance counselor for advice, too. I’m so sorry. Just make sure your daughter knows this is weird and not right. Hugs.