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- January 9, 2019 at 12:46 pm #815010JDGuest
Oh baby if you didn’t want our opinions or just wanted people to agree with you then you are in the wrong place.January 9, 2019 at 12:50 pm #815011ktfranParticipant
You have an in-law and fiance problem, not an ex-girlfriend problem. Address accordingly.January 9, 2019 at 12:51 pm #815012BittergaymarkGuest
Oh. So she’s wayyyyyyyy hotter than you. Got it. Suddenly, thus all makes sense. 😉January 9, 2019 at 12:51 pm #815013ele4phantGuest
While this girl has no job is 23 and hoping to be an instagram model while living in his parents house with them.
So? That’s her problem, and your in-laws problem, not yours. Stop worrying about her. If she wants to make a living off her Instagram “modelling” and the in-laws are fine supporting her, that’s their choice. You live your own life, don’t worry about what others are doing.
And if your in-laws are paying for your wedding – they do kind of get to dictate things. Don’t like it, use your own big girl money to pay for it yourself.
If your in-laws are overly pushy in general, and your fiance has a habit of capitulating to them, then maybe you should reevaluate whether or not you want to hook yourself up to this family for the rest of your life.
But – the ex is a red herring here. Stop worrying about her. How she lives her life isn’t your business. Whom and for what reasons she chooses to date isn’t your business. And its not your business if your BIL wants to date someone who is just after the family money, not yours.January 9, 2019 at 12:53 pm #815014ele4phantGuest
Grow a backbone and don’t let people force you into decisions on the wedding. It’s your and your finance’s day.
Not if other people are paying for it, it’s not just the couples day. Don’t like it, pay for it all on your own.January 9, 2019 at 1:09 pm #815018anonymousseMember
She’s probably going to be in your life for a long time, unless they break up and she moves out of your future in-law’s house. Is that a future you are prepared for?
Why do you care about why she’s dating your future BIL? He’s also dating her. He’s made a choice to date her. I’m not sure why it’s so hard to accept that two adults are choosing to date. The dating two brothers thing is a little strange, but everyone has gotten over that. Everyone but you. They’ve been together two years, it seems more than a passing fancy.
If you don’t want her in your wedding, but you’re being pressured to include her, that makes it seem like your wealthy future in laws are paying for the wedding. Is that true?
If you can’t stomach her being in your party, being in all the pictures and everything, cancel or postpone it and do it the way you want, with your own money.
You should go see a therapist. Really. You may not think this is a big deal, but it’s clear you have some unresolved issues.
Have you had premarital counseling? That might be worth it, in addition to seeing someone to have a neutral sounding board to discuss your issues.January 9, 2019 at 1:16 pm #815019KateGuest
The only thing I see a reason to have an issue with here is that she accepted the role but shows no interest. Like she could either have politely declined or try to seem more into it.
Everything else is you being petty and jealous, and really isn’t reasonable. If she talks shit about you or has been a jerk to you personally I would get it, but you seem to be annoyed by her just existing.
I don’t get it. My husband’s most serious ex is now married to his good friend. They were both at our wedding (they were dating at the time) and they took all the pictures. I was happy to have them there.January 9, 2019 at 1:27 pm #815021JDGuest
Ya. Shocking that a man with money is dating a model. That has never happened. He clearly gets nothing out of it 🤦🏼♀️January 9, 2019 at 1:28 pm #815022BittergaymarkGuest
My guess is… Somebody is more than a little threatened. Cue the HEATED DENIALS…January 9, 2019 at 1:30 pm #815024JDGuest
No way she isn’t jealous she has more money and is the best ever obviously. Heck, I’m jealous. I want to do nothing, live in a big house rent free and date a wealthy man. Husband just said he’d take that offer up too.January 9, 2019 at 1:37 pm #815025ele4phantGuest
Sign me up.
The only cost is that my boyfriend’s parents are kind of controlling and pushy, and my boyfriend’s brother’s girlfriend is kind of a pill? I’d probably still take it.January 9, 2019 at 2:17 pm #815028Northern StarGuest
Your in-laws are bizarre, forcing you to put your fiance’s ex in your wedding party. What the hell? She’s not family, she’s not your friend (because you hate her), and she certainly doesn’t belong at your side as a bridesmaid.
But you didn’t politely decline early. So, too bad. You’re stuck now. Put her at the end of the line farthest away from you, and forget about her as much as possible. She doesn’t need to “do” anything except show up in her dress on time and not make any scenes. That’s all you should expect.