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January 9, 2019 at 4:16 pm #815062
Eh. I’d just say her motives may be good but she’d be out of line to do that.
I also don’t think we know she’s paying for it?January 9, 2019 at 4:18 pm #815063
Yeah she wrote in, but her in-laws did put her in this situation. Acknowledging that isn’t an endorsement of her dramatic behavior. It’s just contextualizing that she was put in an awkward situation by a bunch of weirdo-busybodies, however well-meaning they may have felt they were being.
The lesson here, LW, is to a. accept the fact that your future brother in law is dating your fiance’s ex and you need to be civil to her and act like a grown up and b. set better boundaries with your in laws in the future.January 9, 2019 at 4:19 pm #815064
Fully admit we don’t know for sure they’re paying for it.
I am totally speculating that’s the case, Mila hasn’t clarified.January 9, 2019 at 4:23 pm #815065
“The lesson here, LW, is to a. accept the fact that your future brother in law is dating your fiance’s ex and you need to be civil to her and act like a grown up and b. set better boundaries with your in laws in the future.”January 9, 2019 at 5:01 pm #815066
I think the LW sounds like the classic unreliable narrator. I’d take anything she says with a grain of salt… I still say she hates the other woman simply because she is threatened by her youth and beauty… 😉January 9, 2019 at 5:28 pm #815067
That @bgm, and her fiance saw her naked. We all know that opposite sex people who remain friendly after seeing one another naked are committing the worst possible sin. The horror! (or is it whore?!?)January 9, 2019 at 5:32 pm #815068
Ah crap then. Lots of people have seen me naked. Guess I’m screwed.January 9, 2019 at 5:36 pm #815069January 9, 2019 at 5:57 pm #815071
Ha!January 9, 2019 at 6:08 pm #815072
I think BGM is right on the LW can’t stand that ex is better looking than she is, coupled with the knowledge that her bf found her desirable enough to date, presumably for an extended time. She is very proud that she has a good job, earning more than fiancé (although I’m not sure that this has anything to do with fiancé’s parents being WEALTHY). So, it upsets her that fiancé really didn’t care that ex didn’t work, which means he doesn’t give a shit about her great job. He’s RICH. He doesn’t have to work. He can afford to only take a job that thrills him. Of course LW makes more than he does. The ex exemplifies a difference in values between the two of them.
As for the parents wanting the ex in the wedding party. Likely the brother is in the wedding party and wants his long-term gf in wedding party, likely the parents see the ex as a future daughter-in-law who will marry the brother. The LW knows that the ex is very attracted to both brothers and both brothers were very attracted to her… hmm.
Of course the parents are paying for the wedding. Does anyone really think the LW would have failed to mention if she and fiancé were paying for it themselves? No, I didn’t think so either.
I don’t see how LW’s fiancé can object to his ex being in wedding party. LW already said yes. His parents want it. Certainly his brother wants it. She’s basically family at this point.
This isn’t about the ex being in the wedding party. It’s going to quickly become about the ex being in the family. That is really what LW objects to: the long-term proximity of an ex.January 9, 2019 at 6:13 pm #815073
Keep fighting with your fiancé about his ex and you won’t have to worry about her walking down the aisle with you. Yes, you are very jealous.January 9, 2019 at 6:26 pm #815074
PS — This secret scandalous slutty side of JD is simply scrumptious! 😉