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My husband looks at other women – now men look at me! Help!

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    avatarLogan
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    I would just play the same game, let him catch you staring at good looking men and if he complains? Be like hunny don’t be such a hypocrite you do it all the time, do you not like it ? Would you like me to stop Ogling other men? Hmmmmm…. play the same game and let him get a taste of his own doing. Also let us know the juicy drama that follows.

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    avatarPDX816
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    Logan – is that actual advise or are you trying to make a joke? Because with all due respect, advising LW to play a game with her husband and call him out on being a hypocrite is terrible advise. She is already behaving in an unhealthy manner, you advise definitely won’t help that.

    #841529 Reply
    avatarKate
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    I mean, it’s a better strategy than what she is doing. But instead of actually doing that, she could try to calmly express to him why the ogling bothers her, and ask how he’d feel if she ogled guys.

    #841540 Reply
    avatarLogan
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    @PDX816

    true that she can calmly talk it out, a lot of people already gave her that advice, I’m not making a joke out of it but hey why not play the same game. Some only learn after feeling what they make others feel.

    #841623 Reply
    avatarHazel
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    Hmm. Ogling- or just noticing? Me and my partner enjoy pointing out particularly lovely people (of all genders) to each other, but we are always careful not to make anyone feel uncomfortable by staring or passing remarks loud enough for them to hear etc- people are fascinating aesthetically, so varied, it’s hard not to be interested and look. But if ogling is leering, then that’s not good.Is he disrespectful in the way he looks at women? If so I’d have a firm conversation about that.

    #841805 Reply
    avatarBetty
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    You can never always be the prettiest person in the room. There’s no point. Be happy with who you are, that’s more attractive than being pretty. Get therapy if you can’t be happy.

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