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- August 4, 2019 at 2:20 pm #849490FyodorGuest
So sorry for your loss. We lost our dog about two a half years ago and it was really hard. My wife had had her for eleven years when she passed. I’d recommend taking a few months, as we did, before getting a new dog.August 4, 2019 at 2:48 pm #849492KateKeymaster
For me it was about 3 months til I got my new pup. But I visited after he was born and held him when he was a few days old. And then another time or two. It was so nice to be around a litter of puppies.August 4, 2019 at 3:04 pm #849493fyodorGuest
We waited about three months before adopting the mighty Hound of Fyodor, but it obviously depends. We actually were going to adopt another dog (goldendoodle puppy) but we had a crisis with my wife’s grandmother and ended up having to pass.
My thinking is that picking a dog is a significant decision and it’s worth letting the initial grief pass and take some time to think soberly about what kind of dog you want and finding a dog that’s a good fit. But I’ve always been kind of deliberate to a fault. Lots of people get new dogs a few weeks later and it works out great.August 4, 2019 at 11:32 pm #849511TheLadyEGuest
The house is so quiet and still and lifeless. I know I won’t be ready soon but 3-4 months does sound about right. My idea is that I will take some time, grieve, be sure to pay the proper respects to my heart & soul dog who gave me her life, and keep most of her things that won’t go bad like food. I can’t give them away. I couldn’t even give my mom her bowl that we kept upstairs for her to get a drink of water in the middle of the night. Nope, her things are hers. I want to make a few changes and updates to my house and then maybe for my birthday in November/Christmas, it’ll be time to start looking. I am a dog mom in my soul. My sister was like “Don’t you want to take some time for yourself? Travel?” and just…nothing compares to the love you share with a dog. <3August 5, 2019 at 7:40 pm #849659AngeGuest
We lasted about 5 days after my gorgeous cat passed away. I was 3 days out from a knee reconstruction and my husband (then bf) burst out ‘I want a kitten!’ Cue me hitching my leg brace into the back of his tiny car and heading clear across the city to the animal shelter. I totally get it, if you’re a pet person life doesn’t feel right without one and I’m sure when you’re ready there’s a dog out there that will be super lucky to get you.August 5, 2019 at 8:40 pm #849664VathenaGuest
I’m so sorry for your loss, LadyE. It’s the pits. I posted on here a couple years ago when we had to have our sweet kitty put down. We did get a new cat about 6 months later- for my husband and me, it was probably too soon, and it didn’t help that the new kitty looks quite a lot like the old one. But my daughter was obsessed, so whattaya gonna do? It did take awhile to get over all the ways she’s not like our old cat, and appreciate her unique personality and quirks.August 5, 2019 at 9:57 pm #849665TheLadyEGuest
I went to therapy tonight (I conveniently already had an appointment booked) and it was so incredibly helpful. My therapist is perfect for me and gave me permission to talk to Lottie whenever I need to and especially whenever I feel her presence, which most often is when I am alone in our house which is where we spent most of our quality time together. He also believes that our souls are eternal and she is still with me, just in another dimension. It was extremely helpful and the first thing that has given me real peace since she passed. Last night was so hard; tonight is a little better because I have been talking to her as I get ready for bed. Our home was our little sanctuary, our safe space. He told he he believes we will be connected forever and it brought me so much solace. <3August 5, 2019 at 9:58 pm #849666BittergaymarkGuest
Oh no. So very sorry to hear this LadyE. I have had a slew of elderly dogsitting clients pass away recently — none on my watch — but many pups I have known and cared for for years. One was especially devastating as she was the most hilarious french bulldog — Bijoux! And she was by far my favorite. I probably lived with for about five months over five years. I was devastated when I heard the news. And I just spent a week caring for their other two dogs and was depressed the whole time. I can only imagine how much worse this must be for You…August 5, 2019 at 10:21 pm #849667TheLadyEGuest
Thank you so much BGM (and everyone else too). My dog walker came to her memorial on Saturday and cried while telling stories about her. She said Lottie was her favorite dog to walk and the highlight of her day, and she was devastated to hear of her passing.
I miss my girl so much. I just told her I miss her and I love her. <3August 6, 2019 at 5:00 am #849672KateKeymaster
Okay, I’m glad you said that about their souls being eternal. I wasn’t going to say it, but I *know* that when pets pass from this life, they go right on being themselves and being happy and having fun. You can’t see her, but she’s still Lottie, and her experience includes the same things it did in this life, and she’s happy and loved. Knowing that helps me go on.
That said, what I’ve heard is that if you need a sign that she’s gone on and is ok, you will get it. The signs don’t always come, but they do if you need it.August 6, 2019 at 6:58 am #849681Dear WendyKeymaster
I lost my Simone, after 19+ years together, almost ten months ago and it still really hurts. But she communicates with me all the time and in such unique and creative ways (you might remember that picture I posted around thanksgiving of the rainbow that turned into a cat-shaped shadow on the floor, which is just one of many examples). I 100% believe that our souls connect with our pets and that that connection transcends any transition from this physical plane.
Lottie will always be around you.August 6, 2019 at 8:43 am #849695lucia_laGuest
So sorry for your loss. I’m tearing up a bit at work reading about everyone’s lost loved pets. Nothing is the same as the bond with beloved furbabies.