I agree with the consensus that the fiance doesn’t sound disrespectful, at least not from what’s written here, but it’s also fair that LW has her own ideas around what is and isn’t okay. I have a friend with a history of anorexia who has been in in-patient treatment multiple times since HS for it. I was appalled to learn that her now-husband made comments here and there while they were dating about how disgusting it is to watch her eat after a night of drinking. (Once because she ate shishito peppers with her hands.) I thought and still think that’s a deeply insensitive thing to say to someone with a history of severe ED who has and will likely forever have serious demons around food and body image. My friend thought it was NBD. Different people, different opinions. It matters less that the consensus is that this guy’s behavior doesn’t seem like anything to bat an eye at and way more that LW feels disrespected. I also wonder why she wants to marry someone she feels doesn’t respect her… it should be addressed before they legally bind themselves to one another. I also wonder where this deep insecurity(?) started… take some time to explore the wound beneath the trigger with a trained mental health professional, LW.