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My mom just got diagnosed with breast cancer and i don’t know what to do

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    kayla

    my mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer, they don’t know what stage yet or any details. i haven’t told any of my friends because i don’t want to have them look at me differently, it hasn’t even sunk in that my mom has cancer. I have crippling anxiety and fear over how long she has left and whether things will ever be the same as it was before. I really just need help getting rid of this intense worry and fear and to look at this situation in a different light. Any advice will help me thanks.

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    FYI

    Breast cancer is not nearly as fatal as it used to be. Most breast cancer is successfully treated nowadays. When your mom is ready, ask her what stage the cancer is. It may even be stage zero or one.

    Whatever stage it is, you and your mom can go here for support:
    https://www.nationalbreastcancer.org/breast-cancer-support-groups

    EVERYONE SHOULD GET AN ANNUAL SCREENING MAMMOGRAM!!!
    Early detection can save your life.

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    This is a lot to handle and fear is a very natural reaction. Please remind yourself that you don’t know anything for sure yet and that she may be in the very earliest and treatable stages. Don’t worry about what people will think, find a good friend or counselor that you can talk to about this and become as informed as possible about the different stages and treatment options. Fear of the unknown can be far more stressful than facing a challenge armed with knowledge. You’re going to need help and support to get through this. You also need to make sure that you’re taking care of your own health. Remember to eat well, stay hydrated and get plenty of rest. FYI posted a good resource, start there.

    Best wishes, I’m so sorry that you and your mother are going through this.

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    CurlyQue
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    If they don’t know what stage then it’s doubtful she’s at stage 4 which means it’s much more survivable. Be as great a support person as you can but also remember self care. When my mother was sick i was burning myself at both ends until i’d finally breakdown. Don’t do that. Also, if you have the ability i’d suggest a counselor/therapist as i found it really helpful to be able to talk about the situation with someone who wasn’t a part of it.

    I wish your mother the very best as well as yourself.

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