“My Niece Is Hurting”
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Agreed that the reasons don’t matter. (Every scenario outlined here is plausible, but it may be as simple as him being young and too emotionally immature to execute a better breakup than this.) Not to mention, I can recall a couple times after a breakup where someone well intentioned tried to tell me what they think may have happened and all it did was make me feel worse! I eventually learned that even when I was hurt, it didn’t matter why someone didn’t want to date me. What mattered was that they didn’t want to date me.
I think all you can do is offer support while she goes through it. Lend a listening ear. Encourage her to go out with friends and stay active. If you live nearby, doing an activity she enjoys together would be a nice distraction. Help her get excited for her next semester at college and her future after.
We all get through our devastating breakups, so she will be okay!
While I’m on the side of this doesn’t really matter why, and you are writing about your niece’s feelings I still want to give a “what if,” even though we really don’t know why. This young man might be scared of being deployed. He might know how hard it is going to be to focus on what he is doing and trying to keep up a relationship and is afraid he won’t have the mental capacity to do so. Dealing with a loved one overseas is hard. Wondering how they are doing, what they are doing, etc. Maybe he was trying to save future heartache for the both of them. No contact might be better since he’ll be overseas and won’t know when he can contact her.
