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My obese husband wants a divorce b/c I don't "love" his body.

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  • #786690 Reply

    But Trump is the fattest president we’ve had in recent history.

    Wait, why is he in his thread?

    Ruby wrote VAPID, not valid.

    TLDR: no one needs a reason to want a divorce.
    He wants a divorce. The legitimacy of his claim to want a divorce doesn’t need to be argued.
    He wants one. That’s enough.
    The end.

    #786699 Reply

    Ruby Tuesday, so now the government wants to control our diet through the CDC. No thank you. This is simple chem 101. Take in more energy than you put out, your mass increases. Take in less engergy than you put out your mass decreases. Muscle burns more energy than fat. Some systems (bodies) are more efficient at conserving energy than others. There are some really nasty genetic diseases were the poor person is really hungry all the time. Fat cells are produced in childhood (don’t remember for how long) so children (this is the parents job, not the government) should not be allowed to become overweight or else it makes it harder to lose weight as adults. Fat cells like to be fed. Would help not to get rid of PE classes. Keep the government out of my kitchen.

    I think the LW was asking the wrong question. In her original post she stated there were other problems besides the husbands weight though he had gone from being obese to being morbidly obese. It’s his attitude. He’s not trying to make things better. It’s all about him. And who says to a wife that if so and so would just lose 100 pounds he would marry her? And this is coming from a guy that is morbidly obese. I don’t know if it’s the vows she is feeling bad about or the child not having a father around all the time but she needs to get over it. Give him what he wants, a divorce.

    #786710 Reply

    Who cares if she wrote the “wrong” question? She wrote the question that she asked. I don’t understand your obsession with this relationship, Oracle.

    #786719 Reply
    Ruby Tuesday

    From Page 4:

    “We also all see things through our experences. I married around 30. My then husband was 6’4″ and around 200. I was 5’8″ and had trouble staying around 115 – just had trouble gaining weight and I use to eat a lot. This went on till my 40’s. The first year he gained around 60 pounds. Then the drinking and the verbal nonsense started. I never was making enough money even when I was making more than he was. And it got worse from there. His guessable weight got up to 450. It’s guessable because they have to use a special scale at that weight. This was someone that did not care how unhappy I was and was not even trying to make things better. Now there were many reasons why I should have gotten rid of him before I did. My life was a nightmare. But bottom line did this guy really ever love me, no. Just like the first guy never loved you. Oh, did he lose the weight when he went back to the dating game, oh you bet. Now if that’s makes me shallow I plead guilty.“

    #786723 Reply

    She wants to save the relationship, Oracle. Did you read that part?

    #786909 Reply

    @BGM- I love fresh mint. I hope I get to see lake Superior at some point. Lake Calhoun and Harriot also look stunning. There’s nothing better than a quiet beach and some hiking and canoeing.

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    Ruby Tuesday

    Lake Calhoun is AMAZING.

    #798163 Reply
    Ruby Tuesday

    I apologize for dwelling on ancient history, but this paragraph from an article about how people fundamentally misunderstand the causes and impact of the obesity crisis in America immediately reminded me of this thread.

    Emily finally managed to get away from him, but she is aware that her love life will always be fraught. The guy she’s dating now is thin—“think Tony Hawk,” she says—and she notices the looks they get when they hold hands in public. “That never used to happen when I dated fat dudes,” she says. “Thin men are not allowed to be attracted to fat women.”

    From “Everything You Know About Obesity Is Wrong,” https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/everything-you-know-about-obesity-is-wrong/

    #798165 Reply

    Yeah, I read that. Very interesting and worth a read.

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