My partner was supposed to leave for bootcamp but got a temporary disqualification which set him back for a bit. At first everything was fine but its been almost a month and he has done nothing to try and improve anything for himself. I know he needs a push but I don’t want him to feel forced by any means. Any idea what I could do? He’s so bright and amazing but I hate seeing him allow himself to be so stagnant. It’s gotten to the point where I get immensely upset and question if he truly cares about anything.
Yeah, this isn’t good. What you see is what you get (WYSIWYG! They say that in the military). When you have a partner with no motivation, it’s tempting to try to BE their motivation and push them to do things to better themselves, but it’s pointless. You either need to be okay with who he is right now, which you’re not and that’s totally fine, or you need to move on. Now, by moving on, you might find that he gets his shit together suddenly, but that’s not likely to last.