My Wife’s Friend

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  • NastyLoc99
    December 30, 2022 at 3:33 pm #1117851

    My wife (29F) and I (28M) just recently got married and we’ve and she introduced me to her best friends (when we first starting dating), who are also a married couple (MF) around the same age.

    Ever since I met her female best friend she’s always given me weird vibes. She’s super cool but some of the things she’s said and done has caused me to raise an eyebrow and it doesn’t seem to bother anyone else.

    For instance, she saw me one time and said that I was handsome at least 4-5 times. Another time I said I had a headache and she began rubbing and massaging my head. She’s always hugs me multiple times and rubs on my back or shoulders for a few seconds whenever we double date. She always laughs hysterically at my jokes, always agrees with me, and I always catch her looking at me. The strange part is it doesn’t seem to bother anyone else and it doesn’t bother me, but it’s just weird because I’ve never been in a situation like this before. I love my wife and I know she loves her husband.

    More recently, we had another large friend outing recently. I’ve noticed she likes to be around me or sit by me in certain situations. There were about 10 folks in our hotel room (only 6 in slept in our room). One time I was laying across the bed and she joined me a few moments later. We weren’t spooning or anything but we were close enough that I could feel the heat from her body. No one seemed to mind but me, which makes me think I’m overthinking things. My wife later joined her, but she later said she has no interest in women.
    On another occasion, we were sitting down and our thighs touched each and we both had space to move our legs and neither of us did. All of this has happened while her fiancé and my wife were present.

    Are they swingers? Is she just a really nice person? Is she attracted to me? Am I just overthinking

    December 30, 2022 at 3:44 pm #1117852

    Impossible to tell. You should ask your wife. They’re her best friends, right, so she would know if they swing or what their deal is, or if this woman acts like this with everyone or no.

    The one couple I know who swing, are very blatant about it and she openly flirts with, touches, makes out with, and shows her breasts to basically everyone.

    Oh, there’s another couple where the husband always touches and rubs people. This is widely known.

    If this chick is only acting like this with you, be very careful.

    Do talk to your wife.

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 3 months ago by Kate.
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    December 30, 2022 at 5:20 pm #1117855

    Yeah, ask your wife and then that’s way there’s also a verbal record of you expressing thoughts on the subject, which may be helpful if things escalate.

    We have friends who are polyamorous and the wife has always flirted with me bc I think that feels safe to her. The husband flirts too but not like the wife and I think that’s out of respect for my husband. If this is your wife’s friend flirting with you so openly, she must feel like your wife wouldn’t mind – and her response seems to confirm this. But maybe YOU mind or are at least confused, so ask your wife for some clarity.

    December 30, 2022 at 5:42 pm #1117856

    I completely agree with saying something to your wife and asking her about it, because they’re her best friends, right?

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