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    Kimberly Murray

    First of all, dad moved out 2 years prior with me and my daughter. He told me a lot of stories about how mean she was to the mom up until she died. How manipulative she was. After we all moved in together she was first very mean to my daughter and just tattled on her and me to the dad about anything. It was so childish. Everything has to be about her, your not ever to say anything to her at all or she flips out and has a fit. Makes everything very tense not friendly only time she talks to you if you engage in the conversation and it has to be only about her. Expects her dad to jump everytime she snaps her fingers. I bought her $400 worth of Christmas gifts for her and my daughter from me only. I thought it was nice to actually have someone else to buy for Christmas. She was all upset after opening them never said thank you and was very rude all day. Aparently a medium is insulting. Went to my parents and was equally rude to them. She graduation college after 5 years and wanted a party the weekend it was my daughter 20th bday. We decided to have a party for both explaining my daughter would have only a few friends. Two days before the party she freaked out didn’t want to share the day. Had to be all about her as always. So dad canceled only to give her money to have it somewhere else. Came there in the morning giggling with her friends like to rub it in my daughter face. I said something to her about it and I told her I wasn’t leaving and I knew that’s what she was doing. Then she wanted her father to choose her over me. Which it is not a contest. and now she will not talk to me is rude to my parents and causing so much tension in my house. And just so you all know. When we moved into the house it was her idea we all live there it was both me and my fiancé stuff. I am always wondering what she is up to. That’s why the life insurance policy seemed pretty deceitful. Granted it wasn’t about me but it was about the man I love that has been manipulated for 20 years with his ex and his daughter. She was suppose to move out but won’t know just for spite. Has the means to do it and is 23 but won’t. I so tired of it all. I just wanted everybody to get along and be nice to each other and we all are except for her. Its just sad. And trust me I have tried for 2 years to be there for her every step but she refuses to be happy about anything.

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    Kimberly Murray

    And one other thing. I pay half of everything in that house. I clean that house I take care of that house. I buy stuff for that house. I have always been very independent. If your saying i’m the goldigger you are sadley mistaking. Me and my fiancé are a team. 50/50 thank you very much

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    Kimberly Murray

    so do me and my daughter have to leave our home because she refuses to play nice. Doesn’t seem right to me

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    Part-time Lurker

    Just for clarification. May I ask whose name is on the deed to the house?

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Eh… Sharing my graduation day with a stepsister I never asked for, wanted, or apparently liked would NOT have much pleased me at 22. Hell, it damn well wouldn’t please me now.
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    You are trying to alienate a parent from their child. Oh, you’ll deny it. But your update DRIPS with hate. Simply drips with hate. It’s vile. It’s gross.
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    It’s also utterly unjustifiable.
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    PS. If you aren’t digging for gold, stop trying so to make a real grab for it. You view her money as his money — which you clearly view as “our” money. It’s not. It’s HER fucking money.

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    Kate
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    You gave her an appointment with a medium for Christmas? To communicate with her mom?

    #847812 Reply

    She has lost her mother! Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with you??

    Go see a therapist. Ask your bf to ask her to see one.

    You are choosing to believe she is a fully grown adult making these decisions with intent to hurt you. Brain development isn’t over until 25!

    You are being ridiculous. You’re keeping score. She’s practically a kid.

    You aren’t being supportive, loving, forgiving. Confronting her and telling her you know what she’s doing is over the line. You don’t have the emotional maturity to deal with her. She might be a jerk, but plenty of people are total assholes until their mid to late twenties. It’s not all that uncommon. And is it really surprising, with the way you think of her? You are a grown woman attributing negative intent to all of her behavior.

    Who wants to share a party for their birthday OR for graduation?! Your laundry list of wrongs she’s committed are so petty. Grow up.

    #847813 Reply

    I thought she meant a size medium.

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    Allornone

    @kate, I’m hoping the Medium is in reference to clothing size and maybe the girl was insulted because she’s a small. If she did mean a psychic (which is how I first read it, too), that’s an… odd gift.

    #847816 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Yeah, I thought the daughter was insulted by a receiving a medium sized top or something — which pretty much ANY twentysomething would have been back in my day. (Although… today, admittedly far more twentysomethings (male and female) are rather shall we say large to put it mildly. So maybe this was an innocent mistake though I rather doubt it.

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    Kate
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    Oh yeah, well, a size Medium is equivalent to an 8-10, so if she’s a 0-2 and wears XS, I could see her being offended.

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Oh, I’m so sure it was an innocent mistake…

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