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August 11, 2020 at 6:10 pm #946956embo5501Guest
I’m interested in this guy, maybe not as a future partner exactly, but I would want to be at the least more than friends. We talk occasionally and have run into each other a good amount, and he’s expressed interest in me. The only thing is, he’s my high school friend’s ex-boyfriend. Him and I go to the same college, and she goes to a different one. Her and I were friends when they dated, which was over 2 years ago, and I knew him back then too. He’s also friends with my ex boyfriend, which could be a separate issue in itself, but i’m less concerned about that. Her and I are not very close anymore, and I find her very rude, mean, and condescending these days. Because of this, I haven’t kept super close contact with her, but do occasionally see her at events back home. We’ve also started leading different lives at our respective schools, and have different friend groups at school. I feel that I do a lot of things to keep people happy and to avoid confrontation, especially with my friends from high school. I’m trying to branch out from them and find myself outside of my hometown. I’m wondering if pursuing this guy would be a bad idea because of the reasons listed above, or if it’s just high school drama that I can disregard. I know doing anything with him would ruin her and I’s friendship, but I don’t think it’s very strong anyways and I don’t really like her anymore in the first place (none of this would be out of spite or because of that, it just makes me less sympathetic). The last thing I want is people from high school getting mad at me or thinking low of me because of it, but at the same time high school isn’t forever, and shouldn’t dictate my future. Please help!August 11, 2020 at 6:34 pm #947008AngeGuest
It doesn’t even sound like you’re really friends with his ex anymore so I’m not sure why dating him is a big deal. Go forth and flirt, see what happens. If the ex girlfriend wants to kick up a stink you can tell her she is indeed acting like it’s high school and she should move on.August 11, 2020 at 9:00 pm #947325HelenGuest
No reasonable adult would care about this relationship. See what transpires