One night stand confusion
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I just got out of a 5-yr relationship and wanted to look for rebound sex on Tinder. I ended up matching with a guy who’s leaving the country in a few days. We met up and slept together. The sex was perfect and when we chatted it felt like we connected. After he flew back to Europe we’ve been texting daily for a week. The texts were sweet and sometimes sexy. We live in different continents and have no plans to visit the other country anytime soon.
What was intended to be a one night stand has become confusing. What do I do now?
Eh, since you feel confused, I’d just stop texting him and move on. You’re fresh out of a 5-year relationship and this guy lives on a different continent. Sure, in a rom-com, this is the perfect foundation for a beautiful relationship to develop unexpectedly. But in reality, this is probably just a waste of time and energy unless you’re really getting a kick out of the texts.
Any “relationship” that might possibly develop would by nature be long,long,long distance. Not a good plan.
Also, you looked for rebound sex on Tinder because you wanted something simple and easy. A confusing long distance relationship with someone on another continent sounds like the opposite of that.
Why have you let it become confusing for you?
You want no strings, so cut those strings.
You don’t have to “be nice” and keep texting with him. If he wants a girl to text, I’m sure he will be able to find one.
Spend some time thinking about how you really feel and what drives you. To what extent are you enjoying the attention and physical connection, and to what extent do you want to pursue a long-distance relationship with this person? Communicate with him openly about your hopes for the relationship and the challenges of long-distance dating if you’re serious about keeping it going. But if you don’t want to pursue a long-distance relationship with him, it’s best to be honest about it.
