October 1, 2022 at 6:18 pm #1116300FyodorGuest
I’ve heard some criticism lately of some of the online dating forums. Maybe many of you should consider this alternative.October 1, 2022 at 7:31 pm #1116301TuiParticipant
I really thought it was going to be satire right until it ended! The comments are gold though.October 2, 2022 at 8:35 am #1116307Part-Time LurkerGuest
Fyodor, have you been hacked?
Between this and the spot on PUA post I’m starting to get worried LOLOctober 2, 2022 at 8:57 am #1116308FyodorGuest
There are so many people I could help if they just paid me a lot of money with no strings attached.October 2, 2022 at 8:24 pm #1116330AnonymousseGuest
I thought your PUA comment was so funny. I mean we see that sometimes people just desperately want to be told what they want to hear…and I bet they’d even pay you for that. I know you would never use your powers for bad, fyodor but lord. We old timers should get a function where a pre written “if he’s being confusing, he’s not that into you” and a “women are literally also human, just interpret their looks as you would a man’s,” we’d save so much time.
Q: Does her direct eye contact mean she is sexually attracted to me?
A: Is she at work? Most indeed.
(This is sarcasm, men of the world.)October 3, 2022 at 12:14 pm #1116334FyodorGuest
I joke but I do have some of sympathy for these guys -I’ve always been bad at picking up social cues and looking back I think that there were times when I was younger that women were interested in me that I missed (not my banker). I think that the idea that there is some kind of secret code to figuring out what’s going on is an appealing concept.
I do also think that yes, sometimes women in these situations are actually being friendly/flirty and may be interested-I do know people who have successfully asked people that they’ve met through professional interactions, but (a) it’s probably fairly unusual (b) you should really not bother women at their job and it is more important that people be able to pursue their livelihoods without harrassment than every young man maximize his chances for a date.
Also, even from a narrowly self interested standpoint it is very bad to ask out your banker or IT lady and then have it be weird forever when she says no. I would have to switch banks if this happened!October 3, 2022 at 2:33 pm #1116335FyodorGuest
But yeah, 75 percent of the questions here could be accurately answered by a bot that
(a) tells people to break up with their girlfriends/boyfriends without even reading the letters.
(b) tells people not to have contact with their exes.
(c) tells people not to try to approach people romantically in professional situations*
(d) tells people to butt out of other people’s business.
(e) tells people not to become or stay invested in “relationships” that are online
*The Golden Corral included.October 3, 2022 at 2:47 pm #1116337CopaParticipant
I did have a little sympathy for the recent LW who acknowledged he didn’t always pick up on social clues.
But some letters are bizarre. Like there was that one ages ago where the LW bumped into someone he hadn’t seen since HS at the mall and she was wearing purple, his favorite color, and he wanted to know if that meant something. What!?