- This topic has 7 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated 4 months ago by Helen.
January 25, 2022 at 6:54 pm #1102153ASGuest
Over the past year, my partner has been more romantic. They always have been in general, so it isn’t new, but with kids and work over the last year we hadn’t done many things as a couple.
I asked them about it and they confessed that a year ago, they had considered having an affair with their ex. There had been flirting. No actual sex or kissing, though. They said they worried our romance had run its course and so considered an ex because, obviously, once upon a time it had been good. Grass is greener type deal.
But they decided not to do that because when a rough patch hits, you reinvest and find the spark with your partner. And that is what they have been doing.
I guess my Q is can I trust them to stay? I am torn between a hard “never should have crossed your mind” stance and a “people are human and they are clearly investing in me so I should trust them.”January 25, 2022 at 7:28 pm #1102156Dear WendyKeymaster
How long have you been together? Do you share children?January 25, 2022 at 7:32 pm #1102157ASGuest
Six and a half years, one daughterJanuary 25, 2022 at 7:34 pm #1102158ASGuest
Also when I say trust them to stay, I really mean that they love me and this was a bad thought but nothing more. I don’t want them staying without loving meJanuary 25, 2022 at 7:36 pm #1102159KateKeymaster
January 25, 2022 at 8:04 pm #1102161KateKeymaster
- This reply was modified 4 months ago by Kate.
Asked and answered: No, you can’t trust her.
If you want to discuss these issues in a mature, productive way on here, just tell the truth and stop making crap up.January 26, 2022 at 8:33 am #1102165anonymousseParticipant
If you really think she loves you, why do you keep writing in?
I don’t believe you. You know cheating is wrong. You’re looking for some way for this to work, but it won’t unless you completely succumb to believing everything she tells you and trusting it all.January 26, 2022 at 9:39 am #1102166HelenGuest
In this version there’s a daughter. Anu really wanted us to say they should stay together