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Partner Contemplated Infidelity

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    AS
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    Over the past year, my partner has been more romantic. They always have been in general, so it isn’t new, but with kids and work over the last year we hadn’t done many things as a couple.

    I asked them about it and they confessed that a year ago, they had considered having an affair with their ex. There had been flirting. No actual sex or kissing, though. They said they worried our romance had run its course and so considered an ex because, obviously, once upon a time it had been good. Grass is greener type deal.

    But they decided not to do that because when a rough patch hits, you reinvest and find the spark with your partner. And that is what they have been doing.

    I guess my Q is can I trust them to stay? I am torn between a hard “never should have crossed your mind” stance and a “people are human and they are clearly investing in me so I should trust them.”

    #1102156 Reply
    Dear Wendy
    Keymaster

    How long have you been together? Do you share children?

    #1102157 Reply
    AS
    Guest

    Six and a half years, one daughter

    #1102158 Reply
    AS
    Guest

    Also when I say trust them to stay, I really mean that they love me and this was a bad thought but nothing more. I don’t want them staying without loving me

    #1102159 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster
    #1102161 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Asked and answered: No, you can’t trust her.

    If you want to discuss these issues in a mature, productive way on here, just tell the truth and stop making crap up.

    #1102165 Reply
    anonymousse
    Participant

    If you really think she loves you, why do you keep writing in?

    I don’t believe you. You know cheating is wrong. You’re looking for some way for this to work, but it won’t unless you completely succumb to believing everything she tells you and trusting it all.

    #1102166 Reply
    Helen
    Guest

    In this version there’s a daughter. Anu really wanted us to say they should stay together

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