Over the past year, my partner has been more romantic. They always have been in general, so it isn’t new, but with kids and work over the last year we hadn’t done many things as a couple.

I asked them about it and they confessed that a year ago, they had considered having an affair with their ex. There had been flirting. No actual sex or kissing, though. They said they worried our romance had run its course and so considered an ex because, obviously, once upon a time it had been good. Grass is greener type deal.

But they decided not to do that because when a rough patch hits, you reinvest and find the spark with your partner. And that is what they have been doing.

I guess my Q is can I trust them to stay? I am torn between a hard “never should have crossed your mind” stance and a “people are human and they are clearly investing in me so I should trust them.”