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    Skyblossom
    Skyblossom
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    @megan BGM calls it as he sees it and he’s usually spot on. It’s hard to see how him calling you out on your lack of empathy makes him insecure.

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    Megan

    I’m just saying, happy people don’t go out of their way to be nasty 🤷‍♀️

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Uh, read your own posts. At any rate, I stand corrected. You’ll make mother of the year, Miss Know It All.

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    Megan

    If you think a relationship between two grown adults versus an adult and a child are even remotely in the same realm, you are nuts.

    I don’t bs my friends, and I also won’t listen to them complain endlessly about things they don’t work to change, I don’t enable bad habits. So sorry that makes me such a bitch 🤷‍♀️😂

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Go watch Mommie Dearest and get back to me, Joan. 😉

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    Skyblossom
    Skyblossom
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    Basic aspects of both types of relationships are the same. They both need love and respect for the dignity of the individual. A parent of a child is also a protector, care taker and guide but all of that needs to be based on love and respect.

    There is no need to change your plans because someone else doesn’t like them but there is a basic lack of respect when you denigrate them for their insecurity or in your case, their weight. You can have your plans without insulting them. Your statement is filled with contempt for someone who is supposedly your friend. Relationships don’t usually survive contempt. You can make your plans and refuse to change your plans without mocking anyone.

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    WOW.

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    Kate
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    “If you think a relationship between two grown adults versus an adult and a child are even remotely in the same realm, you are nuts.”

    You just gave really terrible advice to a child though. I don’t know if it makes you “a bitch,” but wow it was really bitchy and mean.

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    LisforLeslie

    “I’m just saying, happy people don’t go out of their way to be nasty”

    But you just said that your friend told you that going to a public pool made her uncomfortable and instead of either comforting her or seeing if an alternative was possible you told her to suck it up because you had spent some money and weren’t changing your plans.

    The way you told that story made you sound nasty as fuck. You made yourself sound like a raging bitch. And your subsequent responses didn’t change that at all.

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    Megan

    Lol putting words in my mouth. I told her we weren’t changing plans we already paid for, invited her to dinner and breakfast the next day and she declined. I can’t listen to people complain about the same things for years, whether it is their appearance, their jobs or their relationship if they aren’t doing anything to change it. Insecure people’s insecurities are valid but conscious effort is the only way to overcome them, and I don’t coddle grown adults who should know better.

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Well, then. I’m sure you’ll be just great with kids… you possess such tremendous warmth, caring, and patience.

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    Megan

    I would love to respond with some demeaning comment on your hubris but I think the fact you are so emotionally invested in a site shows clearly that you don’t have as much going on in the real world and you REALLY need this place, don’t worry, I’ll let you have it BGM ❤ Best of luck with that bitterness 🙂

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