Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Pregnant with PCOS but want an abortion

Home Forums Get Advice, Give Advice Pregnant with PCOS but want an abortion

Viewing 7 posts - 1 through 7 (of 7 total)
  • Author
  • #963827 Reply

    Hi there,

    I have recently discovered I am pregnant. I was diagnosed with PCOS last year and have spent ever since then believing I was never going to have children and being very upset by this. Seeing the positive sign on the test was the biggest shock I have ever experienced. I am not ready for a baby- at all. I am yet to start my career, am not financially stable and still have lots to experience in my life. My boyfriend is 100% on board with not keeping it.

    I know I want an abortion but I can’t help feel maybe I am throwing away my only chance to be a mum. What if I couldn’t conceive again when I actually try? I am only 22 so still have my whole life ahead of me. Just want some advice/reassurance. It is silly for me to keep a pregnancy just because I’m worried it won’t happen again no? All I want is to be a mum, but I am not ready yet. What do you guys think? Any advice greatly appreciated.

    #963830 Reply

    Look before I say this, I’m not a doctor, but I have had PCOS since I was 18 & now in late 30’s. PCOS is essentially insulin resistance and therefore wrecking hormone balance in your body. It means that sugar is your enemy & regular exercise ( cardio, yoga & strength/weight training)and diet ( lower carbs, & wholemeal /GI diet etc )are the way to combat it. Now, you’re in your twenties so the most fertile you’ll ever be. And you’ll be still fertile in your 30’s until it starts to wain after 35. So frankly you’ve got time to get pregnant again. If you’re not ready for baby financially & emotionally , then go get an abortion. As there’s nothing worse than having a child who you resent and can’t afford. Oh & definitely use more effective birth control.

    #963846 Reply

    I have PCOS. I also have 3 kids that I conceived without medical help. I was over 35 when I had my youngest. Having an abortion now does not take away your chances of having a healthy pregnancy when you’re ready! This isn’t your only shot at motherhood. I promise

    #963850 Reply

    Not a doctor, but my sister has a pretty textbook case of PCOS. PCOS is one of the leading causes of infertility in women, yes, but that does not mean that most women with PCOS cannot ever conceive. I also agree that this isn’t your only shot at motherhood and you have plenty of time. If the idea that you won’t be able to conceive when you are ready is causing you anxiety, please talk to your doctor.

    #964083 Reply

    I will also say I have PCOS and 2 kids (1 adopted and 1 biological). My sister has PCOS and has 2 kids. Both my sister and I had a hard time conceiving but we did.

    #964719 Reply

    Hi Jess,
    I would just like to say that I think you should keep the baby. If you’re worried about financial stability there are plenty of resources for unexpected pregnancies and as for your career, I’m sure you could still manage it. My sister is a single mum who had an unexpected pregnancy and didn’t have a job but now she’s moving up in the IT world and my niece is flourishing. I’m not saying it’s easy but I think you should give it a try. My family was really happy that my sister didn’t have an abortion because now we have my beautiful niece. Nobody is ever perfectly ready to have a child but in can work out, especially if you have supportive family and/or friends. If there’s anything I can do to help please feel free to reply to this.

    Love, Kate

    #964728 Reply

    I think your heart is telling you that this pregnancy is not coming at the right time. That is 100% OK, there is so much more into being a parent then just a pregnancy. I would encourage you to join a couple PCOS groups and listen to the stories they have to share. You might be put at ease about having a child at a future time, you are so young.

Viewing 7 posts - 1 through 7 (of 7 total)
Reply To: Pregnant with PCOS but want an abortion
Your information: