- February 9, 2019 at 7:05 pm #830334
This guy I’m talking to is a old friend and we were very close and he was my first kiss but we haven’t seen each other for almost ten years. I have texted him three times altogether already and he always responds quickly, and we have good conversations yet I don’t want to be the one constantly texting him. I also asked him if we could hang out and he said yes but hasn’t done anything. I’m guessing it’s because of the bad weather where we are right now. I just need advice because I don’t want to seem desperate or throw my pride away constantly texting him first.February 9, 2019 at 8:25 pm #830337
Hi Kaiya-If you don’t want to “throw your pride away” by texting him-then stop texting him! He knows you are interested. Leave him be and see if he gets in touch,asks you to meet up,go on a date.. If so,great!
If a week or so passes and you hear nothing, you can assume that he is not interested. Then you do nothing and find/look for someone who returns your interest.February 9, 2019 at 8:31 pm #830338
Yep, if you don’t want to always be the one initiating contact, then don’t initiate contact. If he wants to talk to you, he knows how to reach you.February 9, 2019 at 8:36 pm #830339
Thank you, I appreciate it!February 10, 2019 at 12:35 pm #830383
Why now, after ten years? What’s changed?
Are you suddenly alone and he seems as promising as anyone? You’ve had ten years to fantasize about this guy. Ten years to build him up in your mind into someone he isn’t. Try to not expect much because he likely isn’t the person you knew ten years ago and he isn’t the person you’ve fantasized about during the past ten years.
First kiss means nothing more than first kiss. Look for guys who are a good match. Guys who are emotionally available. Guys that have chemistry but also who have the same values and interests. Keep your eye out for guys that are fun to spend time with but also responsible and who have their life together. A guy who will have your back.