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Should I ghost her, or should I try again?

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    PDX816

    Jay, you sound like the classic ‘nice guy’. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Nice%20Guy%20Syndrome

    As someone who is potentially in your dating age range I can tell you, you come off as one big red flag. Glad this forum is helping you process, but you need to get over it and move on.

    #837379 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Seriously. RED PILL = RED FLAG.
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    Grow the fuck up, dude. I’ve been dumped way, way, WAY harder than you, too. NEWSFLASH. It happens. To everybody. You have a strange sense of entitlement when it comes to women and trust me — it’s NOT a good look.

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Seriously. RED PILL = RED FLAG.
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    Grow the fuck up, dude. I’ve been dumped way, way, WAY harder than you, too, by the way. NEWSFLASH. It happens. To everybody. You have a strange sense of entitlement when it comes to women and trust me — it’s NOT a good look.

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    PDX816

    @bittergaymark – entitlement is a great way to put it. It’s a terrible look.

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    ron

    I agree golfer.gal — Jay didn’t become a misogynist just because this woman dumped him. It must have been there for quite some time. It seems clear that she remembered him fondly from high school and moved to his small town across the country specifically to reconnect with him. Then some of the attitude we’re seeing in his latest posts, on this and the other thread, bled through and she saw him as too possessive, controlling, jealous, with that bitter misogynist undertone and she was done. She isn’t a flakey young woman. She sensed something was off and she acted on that realization. From the most recent posts, she dodged a bullet and we should abandon the poor Jay, done in by flakey woman meme.

    #837394 Reply
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    Jay

    I really appreciate your comments (except for you Ron lol). Thanks for taking the time to talk with me even if you think I’m a pos. I have been considering going to counseling. As a kid after my parents got divorced, I was made to go to counseling and hated it, so was turned off from that whole thing. I thought they just want to jack you up on drugs like Prozac and don’t like taking pills, so I was out. I don’t even go to the doctor for yearly checkups, I just don’t like clinics.
    But you all are right, perhaps I should go see a therapist and talk some of this out. And yes it does help to come in here and gain perspective on my situation. I now realize that just talking about it and gaining perspective is so helpful in becomming a more whole person.
    Don’t worry people I am not going to become a Red Piller, I am just extremely bitter at how the whole situation went down. Thank you again for all the concern. You know people, just because you can’t stand someone’s pov or you think they’re a pos, doesn’t mean you should disregard everything they say. Like 4 of my comments were deleted from this happy little community, and I didn’t personally attack anyone, just brought my take in an unapologetic way. Women are so used to men explaining themselves in an unapologetic, walk on eggshells kind of way, but can treat us however they damn well please. IF you don’t see that maybe you need to look at yourselves in the mirror.
    I’m done w/ this site, I can’t even write a freaking chat article without good ol’ Wendy taking it down. Have a nice mediocre life.

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    Lucidity
    Lucidity

    “Women are so used to men explaining themselves in an unapologetic, walk on eggshells kind of way, but can treat us however they damn well please.”

    You say you’re not a red piller but this definitely makes you sound like one (assuming you mean apologetic, not unapologetic). As a woman, I can tell you this not been my experience at all. All my life, men have been talking down to me, mansplaining at me, cat-calling and sexually harassing me and then threatening me or calling me names when I turn them down. I’ve been called a bitch for politely telling someone I have a boyfriend, and I’ve been called a slut for refusing to dance with a strange man in a club because he saw me dancing with another guy so he assumed he was entitled to dance with me too.

    All my life I’ve been conditioned to push down my discomfort, to prioritize a man’s feelings over my own, to smile and say thank you when I get a “compliment” even though it’s actually an unwanted comment about my appearance. Women are taught to walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting men. They’re finally telling you how they really feel? Sorry, but I don’t have much sympathy.

    You have no idea what a woman’s experience is.

    #837398 Reply
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    Kate

    I took your chat post down. It’s not the right content for this site.

    Specifically, you can ask why women seem to do a certain behavior without stating a bunch of sexist nonsense “facts.” That bs is probably welcome on red pill forums, but not here.

    • This reply was modified 1 week, 1 day ago by avatar Kate.
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    anonymousse
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    Women are so used to men explaining themselves in an unapologetic, walk on eggshells kind of way, but can treat us however they damn well please. IF you don’t see that maybe you need to look at yourselves in the mirror.

    Women are used to men walking on eggshells? Are you fucking kidding me? Women have been treated like shit for centuries. And pretty much continue to.

    Jesus Christ. Get your head right, dude. You have a shitty attitude and Mark is spot on- your entitlement issue is a BAD look.

    How did you treat that woman you picked up on a dating app, fucked a few times and then discarded? You are projecting everything you’ve done onto that poor woman. She probably got a hint of your misogynistic bullshit and rightly walked away from you.

    And your other post was garbage badmouthing women more. Please explain what the point is, why go on a site owned and operated by women and post this stupid garbage? You know les than nothing. Take a women’s studies course and go to a therapist.

    It is hilarious you don’t go to doctors. Such a MAN. What are the schools teaching kids these days?

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    saneinca

    Jay, you are a pos. Just because you like someone, she doesn’t have to like you back.

    If you don’t like her behavior, don’t date her.
    And if you are afraid to date at all as no one is going to like you, then don’t date anyone.

    You don’t sound like a nice guy with your misogynistic talk and you are not entitled to a girl even if you are.

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    PDX816

    Dude, your entire reply is some misogynistic bull shit. This woman owed you nothing, you were casually seeing one another and she didn’t wish to continue. You have spoken about women with such contempt that if even a fraction of that came through she probably RAN. You do not have a healthy view of women. Seek help, and stop dating until you do because you are not a healthy person and should not be in a relationship.

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    saneinca

    Women are just men -with a womb. They can be good or bad – just like men.

    And actually they are better than men. About 80% of crimes are committed by men. About 90% of parents abandoning children are men.

    Educate yourself and start respecting women.

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