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Should I live in SF? Is this a good career and dating move?

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    I recently started a job for a large tech company doing UX Design. My office is located in San Jose but my team and I are work remotely throughout the U.S. and Canada so none of us are ever required to go into the office. I currently live in L.A. and am ready to move since I am not happy here. All of my family is on the other end of the country so I am the only one out here. I luckily have a few friends in SF which is why I am considering that to be my next move. I know career-wise, I would learn a lot from all the people and different networking events. If I make the move to the Bay Area, I don’t plan on being there for more than a year. I would just like to say I lived there once in my life.

    I know dating is difficult everywhere but as an Indian woman in my early 30s, I know I’ll have more options in SF.

    The only thing holding me back from moving is the cost of rent. We all know SF is expensive. I do have a typical tech salary but it doesn’t make me feel any better about paying nearly $4000 for a 1-br apartment. I would consider a roommate, if I didn’t work from home everyday. I only plan to go into the office maybe once a month when all team members are there. I would consider getting a studio but need the space to set up a home office. I’ve found a few options for apartments within my budget but feeling scared about making this move. I’m just not sure that its a good idea, even for just a year.

    Other people have suggested living a nomad life where I go from apartment to apartment in different cities, but I don’t think this would do much for my career or dating since I won’t have 1 actual place I can call home.

    Any advice or support is greatly appreciated!

    #845244 Reply

    Sounds like you want a change in life and just need that push to do it. I would just go with the move, better try it than not and than regret not trying it at all. 4K for a 1 bedroom apartment is crazy expensive, some people don’t even make that a pay a month. if you can afford that plus all orher expenses? go for it.

    The roommate idea is good to help save some cash, but i like my privacy and calling one place home is huge, jumping from apartment to apartment is stressful and it will wear you down. Good luck with the move if you decide, also dating is ehh, plenty of apps for simple dates to one night stands.

    #845261 Reply

    If you want to move there, go ahead and do it. I have moved very frequently, and lived in nine different places in the last six years- and I just can’t even imagine moving to a new place with the mindset that it’d be only a year.

    Where do you picture yourself being next year?

    #845263 Reply

    Go for it, if the rent wouldn’t be too much of a strain on your budget. You’re young, this is the time to try new things.

    But that rent. I mean, I own a 3-bedroom condo in a close suburb of a major city, and the mortgage + taxes + HOA fees + utilities is under 2K. I knew housing was expensive in CA, but holy gad, that’s insane.

    I don’t know much about SF, but is that for an apartment right in the heart of the city? If so, could you go a little further out? Since you don’t have to go into the city to work, you’d just be going in for meeting up with friends or shopping or entertainment. Do you have a car? Is there decent public transportation?

    #845397 Reply
    Lady Lake

    I live pretty close to SF and regularly visit. I would not live in SF. It’s crazy expensive, no parking and everyone is packed in. If you wanted to live comfortably in SF you will have to make an average of $110,000 annually. That is just one person. There are a lot of extra expenses too. Cost of parking is about $30 per day and that is if your lucky to find parking. The taxes are high too at, 8.50%. So if you want to live there make sure you have a very well padded wallet.

    I would suggest living in Sacramento. A single room apartment is about $900 average, and the cost of living is much lower. The best part is it’s just across the Bay, so you can visit SF anytime.

    If you seriously still want to live in SF, I suggest saving up big time and maybe talking to a financial consultant.

    #845405 Reply

    Just want to comment on the dating part of this. Are you mostly looking for casual dating? Because if you move somewhere you wouldn’t consider staying permanently AND your goal is to have better dating options, then it’s not super compatible with finding a relationship. You either have to find someone who wants to move, be willing to stay, or be willing to give it up/go long-distance permanently.

    Not saying that your dating life should dictate this, but you mentioned it as one of a few reasons to go there, so it stood out to me. I think otherwise, it all comes down to whether you have the money to stay there for a year. If you feel like it’s THAT worth it to your career and it’s not a huge financial burden, then might be a cool thing to do.

    #845407 Reply

    It’s crazy to think the rent you’re considering is around $48,000/year!

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