Should I lose my virginity to a porn star? (Please read everything.)
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First, let me say:
1. I’m a 26-year-old virgin woman who’s never dated before. (Chalk that up to controlling parents I recently moved out from a year ago. A lot of healing and self-discovery done since then.)
2. I don’t feel bad about still being a virgin. This idea is not one from desperateness or shame.I’ve watched porn off-and-on for years. Didn’t like most of it—too extreme/often sexist for my tastes. Then a year ago, I found a porn actor (34M) who just worked for me.
He does solo masturbation videos. A lot of subscribers on PN, only a few on his new OF.
I’ve seen several guys’ whose content I liked before. This is not that––I can tell we would be a 100% sexual match. His style and his tastes just match so well with what I love. I can even imagine his smell and taste blending well with mine.
I really feel we would have an incredible time in bed together. His personality seems easygoing and kind, too. We’ve also Snapchatted each nudes to each other in the past (faceless ones from my end).
I have a work conference in New York coming up soon, not far from where he lives (Toronto). I’m thinking about hitting him up, propositioning both of us get tested, meet at a hotel, and have a hookup. Maybe hookup a few times before I head back home.
I will NOT be paying him. The only sex work he does is his videos. I’m coming from this as initiating a payless hookup between equals.
Would this be a good idea to have a unique, awesome first-time experience, or a disaster in the making…and why do you think?
There is nothing shameful in being a 26 year old virgin. At all.
I think it is humorous that you can say with 100% certainty that you’ll be a match sexually, being a virgin. That’s great that you already know that, and know he’s game to have sex with you, as an equal.
There’s nothing stopping you.
Except what you have is a fantasy. When you’re imagining peoples smells and tastes, that’s a fantasy in your head that you are imagining. It honestly sounds like you’ve read too much porn fan fic and if this is real and it happens, you’re going to get hurt when Penis Charming turns into a pumpkin.
Because he could be a dud in bed sure, a horrible asshole in person, that’s the least of the issues, I mean, honestly. He could give you an STD. He could record you, I don’t know I can dream up a thousand reasons why humping a stranger for your first time is a bad idea.
Having sex for your first time with a man you don’t really know, but is famous for whipping it out or having sex online sounds fairly gross and unhygienic to me, but maybe that’s what you like about it. Maybe you’re like a groupie for him.
It takes time/experience to know someone’s body and having a connection- actual sexual chemistry is what makes great sex, amazing sex.
Agree, you’ve never dated and only been exposed to porn. You believe that real life physical encounters will be like porn. They’re not. You should be focusing on making human connections IRL.
Pretty sure I know who this is too, but since the site changed I have to figure out how to use the admin password to log in and know for sure. But especially with your background (even just what you mentioned here), I do not think this would be a good idea. I think it’s really important to pursue real life dating experiences with regular people before doing something like this which has the potential to really mess you up emotionally.
But go for it if you want I guess. I don’t think you’re going to be in danger.
It is Taco Tuesday, I’d have to go back to her old posts to confirm whether it’s exactly the same ip.
@Copa Which I’ve been getting! I’ve also done a lot of work to expand my social circle––volunteering, doing side hustles, having fun. This year’s been transformative for me.
Still, this was just an idea I was flirting with. Just trying to see if I had the chance to fulfill some fantasy of mine and see if I could make it a safe idea. Going to put it to rest.
