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June 13, 2018 at 6:47 am #757235
This year I participated in a school History competition. There were two stages of it, a regional and a national one. I didn’t make it to the national one because I was on the fifth place at the regional but my friend did. After that I was a bit disappointed that I couldn’t get a better result but it motivated me to try again next year. The thing is that my friend is probably going to participate again and she’ll most probably do better than me and go to the national. What’s more, she told me that our teacher said she has a very high chance of succeeding again and it kinda made me feel discouraged because I feel he believes in her more. Do you think I should give up or should I participate again? I was happy for her and I admit that she was more prepared and she’s probably smarter than me but the thing that makes me sad is that my teacher doesn’t appreciate me so much as a student if I don’t get better results.June 13, 2018 at 7:32 am #757241
I think you should definitely participate- it sounds like you are motivated and enthusiastic and it is probably a good opportunity for individual research and learning- good skills to develop whether you win or not. Try not to think too much about measuring yourself against your friend (and take what she says about what the teacher thinks with a pinch of salt.)Your teacher will I am sure be impressed at your perserverance – ability to apply yourself to your work is worth more than top marks gained easily any day. If you win- great stuff, if you don’t, great stuff anyway.The competition wouldn’t even exist if the only person who made the effort to enter was the winner, after all.June 13, 2018 at 8:20 am #757257
Yes, you should. Don’t be intimidated by your friend’s display of superiority. This is part of the competition, you know. Don’t focus on it: there are plenty of candidates. You have your own skills, your own experience. Don’t measure your value or your intelligence through your grades: this is a very narrow filter and not such a good prognosis about later success. You wish to do it, so go for it. To take part doesn’t necessarily mean to win, but to grow in the process, to learn. Take it as a challenge, a game. At the end of the day, the world is open. Nobody knows the outcome, not even your teacher. You can ask him how you can improve in your preparation. He will see that you are motivated. A teacher doesn’t support only one student. They wish general success for their students. If you can find good, positive, healthy reasons for you to do it, then do it!June 13, 2018 at 8:31 am #757258
You should participate. Your teacher is just a person. Their opinion doesn’t matter any more than anyone else’s. Perseverance is much more important than “winning.” Ten years from now (well, probably five), no one will remember that your friend did well in a history competition. But being a person who keeps trying no matter what WILL be something that benefits you years from now.June 13, 2018 at 8:42 am #757261
I’d go for it and start preparing now. You have a lot of time to study and get ahead of the competition. Ask your teacher for specific advice. Is there an essay portion? A speech portion? You may need to do more than learn facts. You probably need to hone your writing and speaking skills.June 13, 2018 at 9:04 am #757264
You should never do anything unless you are guaranteed to be the best in the at it.June 13, 2018 at 9:04 am #757266
Best in the world at it, I mean.June 13, 2018 at 9:09 am #757272
Yes, participate. We Americans get into the very bad habit of thinking if you’re not first, you’re nothing. That couldn’t be more wrong. This can be a good experience for you. Focus upon all the people whom you outperform, not your friend. You might even beat your friend. These things often come down to which specific questions the two of you are randomly asked.June 13, 2018 at 9:10 am #757273
One reason your friend did well was because she was willing to work hard to prepare and she thinks she can succeed.
It sounds like you did well but not quite good enough to go on to Nationals. You can give up but you also have the option of preparing more thoroughly. Learning how to compete is a skill you can use for life. Learning how to prepare in advance for something you want is really critical.
There are kids all over the country who are already preparing for the next competition. You can be one of them and compete and have a chance to win or you can give up.June 13, 2018 at 10:38 am #757300
All joking aside, this sounds fun. Go, try your best, and don’t stress about winning. It would be a terrible shame to miss out on the something that you find rewarding just because someone else may do better.June 13, 2018 at 8:49 pm #757400
You already know how you could improve/be more prepared. Maybe go to your English teacher for help instead of the history teacher. Explain to her what is going on and what was said. Go for it.June 14, 2018 at 1:50 pm #757538
To echo everyone’s opinion, yes you should.
Competition is its own reward. You don’t have to win to have fun.
Someone has to be the winner but it does not mean they don’t have to work for it.