Should we break up?
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I also don’t see what you think you might gain by breaking up. It sounds like this removes your only lifeline at college and that the two of you get along well when you are able to interact in person. It sounds like she needs to earn $ to stay in college and needs to earn good grades to stay in college and these are very reasonable first and second priorities for her. Do the two of you have an agreement to be exclusive? Have you directly asked her, preferably in person, by phone as second best, if she still wants to be your gf.
Seeing each other 1-2 times a week doesn’t sound like drastically limited contact.
Anxiety in addition to depression definitely needs to be your top problem to address. You couldn’t see her over the summer, because you can’t drive, because of your anxiety. That’s a significant issue in your relationship.
It’s totally valid for her to avoid you while you are sick. She’s not a doctor or nurse or your mother.
I do think you are putting way too much of your emotional support and validation, YOUR needs in her. Just because she thought you were cute enough to date doesn’t mean she becomes your next of kin with parenting duties. She is also in university, probably struggling with her own things in her own way.
How do you show her support and care?
I don’t think you’re in the right headspace for a relationship right now.
I understood you were the sick person. Again, she’s also in school and doesn’t want to get sick and miss school and have her grades drop. I don’t know why you think your feelings and needs matter more than her own. Do you consider she has her own shit to do?
