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I used to have a good social life and I would go out every now and then. However, since last December I feel like that has all gone downhill and now I just see a lot of my friend group meet up without me, even though I talk to them and we all sit at the same lunch table at school. I always see them together outside school on Instagram and while I try to not give too much thought, it still gets to me sometimes. This happened with another friend group last year where I just got cut out with no explanation and I don’t want it to happen again. It doesn’t help that my parents are overtly concerned about my studies even though my grades are decent and im studying 80% of the week, and when I try to bring this up with them, they just go “you need to be fully focused on your studies until December” all while my friends are having a good social life and still getting good grades.
I’m sure (and I hope) I’ll get more opportunities next year in college but at the same time I want to make the most of my time with my current group of friends before we all go for college. I don’t know how to bring this up with them because I don’t want to feel like some sort of entitled brat but at the same time I don’t always want to be stuck at home. To add, I used to plan meet ups earlier as well but then my parents started getting on my case about grades, and since then I’ve only been out with friends once since summer break.
What should I do here? how do I go about it?AnonymousseNovember 4, 2022 at 12:27 pm #1116775
Ask them if you can hang out! It’s seems hard but it’s so simple. Just ask. And go. Or plan something since you’ve done that before.
Since last December is nearly a year!PhoebeNovember 4, 2022 at 2:55 pm #1116777
Can you be like “hey, I miss you guys, let’s do something, I haven’t seen you as much since my parents have been on me to study more?” That way you don’t feel lame for not having friends, you just look as if your parents are on you, and that kind of thing is both universally understood and has the benefit of being true.