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    avatarAnon
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    Hi there, I’m just looking for some advice or something about a texting mishap.

    2 days ago I was about to text a work colleague only to discover, around 3 weeks ago somehow I had send a nude picture of my wife to him. Needless to say Im mortified… Ive not slept or eaten properly in the past couple days

    Im incredibly confused as to how the pictures were even sent in the first place. I’m so careful with that kind of private content, It must have been around the time I was going through my phone deleting a load of photos… I’m working myself up thinking of how they could have been sent and what he’s said to other people/thought.
    He’s the kind of person that likes to talk a lot about people behind their back. He’s not brought it to my attention at all, and as I said I only discovered this a couple days ago…

    More that anything I feel horrific on behalf of my wife, who knows this colleague, I can’t tell her and I don’t know what to do…
    I have never felt so uncomfortable and stressed out and anxious in my life I feel sick and can’t concentrate.
    Maybe just getting it off my chest will help a bit

    #870731 Reply
    avatarKate
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    Um. That’s super fucked up and not acceptable.

    My husband sometimes sends texts to the wrong people because he’ll see my name and not realize it’s a thread that has other people on it too. He’s messed up a bit, and it’s my worst nightmare that he’d send a nude to my dad. But he never has.

    Anyway. Do not, I repeat, NOT say anything to your co-worker. Like omg don’t.

    I’m torn on whether to tell your wife, but I think you should. I think she has the right to know who saw that pic.

    #870732 Reply
    avatarAnon
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    I know it’s fucked up, you can’t tell its my wife from the photo, but my hand is partially in it, and I have tattooed hands…
    At this point I’d rather my coworker thought I cheated on my wife than thought it was her

    #870734 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    Like I said. Don’t even think for one second about saying anything to your co-worker. You don’t want to implicate yourself in anything where HR or management could get involved.

    If it were me, I think I’d want to know my husband did this. I’d also want to know how it happened, and how he can guarantee me it will never happen again.

    #870736 Reply
    avatarAnon
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    That’s thing I don’t even know how it happened, as I said I was deleting photos a few weeks ago because she was uncomfortable with them, as I was doing it I put my phone in my pocket and somehow it must have sent them.
    I don’t know how to tell her, and I’m scared it’s going to hurt her, she has body issues as it is

    #870737 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    I would be going to the phone store and telling them what happened and getting them to help you try and figure out how that happened. If that’s not possible, you need to just not have any nudes on your phone. You use it for work purposes and you fucked up once (thank your lucky stars you didn’t send that pic to your boss, and/or a woman), so you don’t get to have nudes on your phone anymore. Problem solved. I’d still come clean with your wife but it’s your choice.

    #870739 Reply
    avatarAnon
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    Thank you for speaking with me, it’s relieved some of the stress

    #870740 Reply

    Wow. I am really struggling understanding how, in the course of deleting these photos, they accidentally were sent to a coworker. That means you didn’t actually delete them as you put your phone in your pocket.

    I’ve butt dialed people by accident. I’ve never had a text get sent by accident. I’ve actually never heard of any texts being sent by accident.

    You need to actually sit down and delete all those photos and maybe reset your phone. Go through your settings. Remove shortcuts. You have lost the ability to have nudes on your phone.

    And yeah, you need to tell your wife. She deserves to know.

    #870741 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    Ok good. People fuck up, but once you do, you have to make sure it never happens again.

    And please for the love of god don’t mention this at work.

    #870743 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    But yeah, I can’t fathom how that could ever have happened.

    #870747 Reply
    avatarAnon
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    I’ve been trying to figure out how it’s happened, the day I deleted them I have a phone call from him, and I vaguely remember as I was deleting them I got a phone call and answered it and when I hung up I didn’t close the screen because I remember pulling my phone out again and the screen still being on with the photos up, I then deleted them.
    And on my phone there is a share button in the photo album app, so it must have pressed that in my pocket and with him being the most recent contact on my phone it selected him….

    #870751 Reply

    Seriously, delete everything. Go through your settings and remove shortcuts. Tell your wife. And stop it with the nudes. And porn. No porn on your phone either.

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