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    @allornone – great example. Grant writers, bid writers, technical writers. People who author procedures, who develop corporate/system training materials. Seriously, things we never knew happened at big companies.

    And depending on the company, these people can easily make six figures.

    #1099227 Reply

    Oh yeah, my dad was an English major. He taught at the junior college level but it wasn’t for him. Then when i was really little he got a job as a technical writer at Digital Equipment Co (computer company), and ended up having a very lucrative career in product management. My mom got a job there too in their corporate library (English major also, with MS in library science), and also had a great career.

    #1099283 Reply

    LW, I feel like the root of your problem may not be toxic work places and a difficult career field so much as it is the relationship with your parents. It’s heartbreaking to read that your parents don’t like or support you, and if that’s been the case your entire life, then that’s going to create emotional problems for you. If you experienced childhood emotional neglect or emotional/psychological abuse growing up, you have probably developed coping mechanisms to get you through that, but now that you are an adult, they aren’t working for you anymore. Additionally, if you learned that cannot trust the people who were supposed to love and care for you, it’s possible that those feelings are bleeding into other situations with authority figures, in this this case, bosses.

    Maybe spend some time googling childhood emotional neglect or emotional/psychological abuse and see if what you read resonates with you. But I really think the advice to see a therapist is spot on.

    #1099288 Reply

    Have you tried to receive advice from your career service at your uni?

    #1099291 Reply
    Teri Anne

    I graduated with a biology degree in 1980 during a severe recession, and my biology degree was not much more helpful in finding a job than a film degree. My university placement office catered to business majors, and offered little help to science majors. I applied to several hundred jobs with no luck.

    I can really empathize with the LW’s situation, because I was also stuck at home with uncaring parents who even berated me for buying a suit for interviewing. I desperately wanted to move out, but I needed a job first because I could not count on my parents for financial help. Unfortunately the abuse and neglect I suffered as a child did not teach me good social skills, and I was very ill-equipped to handle working in an office or lab. I was fired from several jobs before landing a state service job in my 30s. This was a good job with a caring boss that I am still in touch with, and I benefited from communications classes that the agency sent all their employees to. I worked there almost 10 years before leaving to attend graduate school.

    Many readers are counseling the LW to suck it up, because every entry level job has grunt work. There is truth to this advice, but it is also true that a lot of companies mistreat their employees and create toxic situations. For recent college graduates, distinguishing between a toxic workplace and ordinary workplace annoyances can be challenging. I recommend reading Ask a Manager at https://www.askamanager.org/ for advice on cover letters, resumes, and workplace dilemmas.

    I know things are hard for the LW right now, but it does get better. Therapy was not readily available in 1980, but if you can get therapy it will help you feel better about yourself.

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