So it was always the one friend who invited you to things with the other friends? Not other people in that group inviting you places? And are you still hanging out with this friend? Is she still doing things with those other friends? Or maybe she just hasn’t been getting together with them.

I think in a situation like this, she’s definitely the gatekeeper and owns the relationship with that friend group. You can’t go around her, and you can’t push. I think you could mention – once – that those people are fun and you miss hanging out with them, or ask how they’re doing and say it would be fun to hang out again, but anything more than that wouldn’t be polite.

Who knows the reason, maybe it has something to do with that guy, or maybe she feels like you don’t fit well with the group for some reason. It doesn’t really matter. They are her friends and it’s up to her to invite you to hang with them. If she doesn’t, you have to respect that.

Do you know who is organizing the group hangs? If it’s not your friend, that may be part of the reason you’re not invited, at least sometimes.

I think meeting friends of friends is a great way to meet new people but I guess after four months I’d expect you to have a way to get in touch with them outside of the friend who introduced you since it sounds like you saw them regularly for a bit. That way instead of feeling slighted that you’re not invited and wondering why, you can organize something and invite them. There’s a learning curve to making new friends as an adult and taking the initiative can feel intimidating but IMO is a good way to speed the process along.

I think Kate’s suggestions for bringing it up sound good.