October 11, 2020 at 7:07 am #963118JadeGuest
So i’ve had this internet friend for 5 years i’ve rollplayed with, texted everyday, snapchatted, video called, worked on animations together and everything. She’s amazing! She’s smart, pretty, insanely skilled in art, and so fun to talk to! She’s also a lesbian and asexual just like me! She’s 20 and i’m 23, so we’re young but people are quickly being taken by their forever mate. It’ll just get harder to find someone from here; especially someone who beats her in my opinion.
The problem is… she’s a great friend. And I don’t want to ruin my friendship with her by saying something like this, I always want to be able to talk to her, and someday get to hang out when we have the money to drive that distance. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to lose my chance but I also can’t afford to lose my friend and animation partner.
She’s always made an effort to talk to me everyday; when her phone was broken she emailed me, when I didn’t get an alert on my phone and didn’t message for 3 days she asked if I was okay. Something about that makes me so happy. I’m also super into fitness! Now she’s making an effort to try lifting weights after talking to me about it!October 11, 2020 at 9:37 am #963122
If you don’t want to risk losing your friendship or making it weird, wait until you’ve met in person and see how you feel. Or if you can’t, let it out knowing that you risk it.October 11, 2020 at 9:46 am #963123JadeGuest
Maybe there’s a way to ease into it? It’s so risky but I can’t imagine anyone else after dating 3 other people prior. Even her accent that she is self conscious about is cute!October 11, 2020 at 10:24 am #963127KorrarGuest
She sounds great and like a really genuine friend who cares a lot about you. I think that even if she doesn’t feel the same, she’d ignore it for the sake of continuing to talk to you.
Shoot your shot!!October 11, 2020 at 11:45 am #963131
So Jade…is this girl your girlfriend referenced in your other post, or someone new?October 11, 2020 at 12:07 pm #963134
Yeah, wtf Jade?October 11, 2020 at 12:57 pm #963136Jade 2Guest
There we go, Jade 2, different person, same computer. Jeez I was confused at first! Sorry everyone! Obviously, that’s not our real name(s)October 11, 2020 at 1:10 pm #963137
Hahahaha ok.October 11, 2020 at 1:13 pm #963138
That is the craziest coincidence I’ve ever heard of, TWO different asexual 23-y/o lesbians with the same IP address writing into Dear Wendy using the exact same name. And not even aware that the other one was writing in! Insane!
And both animators too! OMG!
October 12, 2020 at 3:41 pm #963150
- This reply was modified 2 weeks, 5 days ago by Kate.
It was easy to put two and two together because you wrote in your second post soon after your first and the details are the same, mostly.
Also, Kate is a moderator and can see your IP address.
It’s actually better for all of us (including you) if you’re just honest and not try and make up details or lie and say the other post isn’t you. We can’t give good advice if you’re not being honest. And a lot of people write in more than once looking for different advice, and it’s something we’re all pretty good at sniffing out. No offense.